I was married for over twenty five years; I am a mother and now a grandmother. I have been reflecting over my past and I have found several reasons why self-esteem is so important to me.

I remember being sent out into the cruel world to attend school and having to learn to stand on my own two feet. Even though I felt love from my parents in my home, I never felt they gave me the extra push every child needs to achieve their full potential. I have battled boosting my self-esteem my entire life and I will share with you how I finally accomplished boosting my self-esteem and believing in myself.

For people who are now raising their children as a single parent your self-esteem will take root when you are in control of your life. Today children are in so many special after school activities all they hear is achieve, achieve and achieve.

Setting goals too high for our children is certainly a great way to crush their self-esteem. We must have a balance; if the child does not live up to their parent’s great expectations of whatever their achievement should be, their self-esteem could be crushed before it ever develops.

The child needs to take on this achievement because he/she wants to or loves to do this special project. The child should not have to feel he/she has to be the absolute best in order to fulfill his parent’s idea of a perfect child.

Many times children develop and take a special interest into a subject that their parents are unfamiliar with and do not understand. The child can be bullied by their parents to stop this nonsense and find something else that they approve of. As I lived my life and different doors opened for me,' I had to make choices.

I know if my self-esteem would have blossomed in childhood I would have made wiser, choices. I would have believed in myself more and would have drawn on my past to help me achieve my future. wwww.lmeckler.com, author, Ghost Kids Trilogy