Great nonfiction book that takes away the need to assume or prejudge! The author sits down with seven gay men and asks them many of the questions that you've always wanted to ask!
Conversations takes you on an intimate journey with seven gay men across the United States. From the Italian/Mexican army sergeant living on the down low to the popular Black news anchor who grew up in inner city Detroit watching his gay uncle in a loving relationship for 36 plus years to the super cute Asian internet marketing executive who has never had sex with a woman, you will be intrigued and amazed at their answers to some of the most personal questions you’ve always wanted to know the answers to but were too afraid to ask.
Questions like: “How did you know you were gay?”, “Have you ever had sex with a woman?”, “What about personal hygiene?”, “Are you a top or bottom?”, “Were you molested as a child?”, and “Do you believe you were born gay?” are answered in this real talk it-is-what-it-is book.
Many straight men become noticeably uncomfortable, embarrassed and disgusted around openly gay men and many women are confused, disappointed and pissed off that the pool of eligible bachelors appears to be dwindling away as more men pass on the girl next door for the man out of the closet. Many families have been torn apart mainly for lack of knowledge and understanding; and many gay men remain ostracized from the mainstream community because they feel prejudged and misunderstood.
After reading these intimate conversations with gay men hopefully you will have a better understanding of how these two worlds~ gay and straight~ can coexist in peace and rainbow harmony.
Excerpt
Chapter 5~A little taste of Vajayjay
“All he needs is a good piece of p-u-s-s-y and he will never want another man again!” It may sound crazy; however, this is how a lot of women feel. Like if we could just give him some and rock his world he would be “cured” of his homosexual desires. Those of you who have husbands who turned out to be gay, fathers, uncles, brothers and cousins who are gay, you know that this is a ridiculous “cure”. It is mind boggling to me because I believe in the power of p-u-s-s-y. (Yes, I have to spell it out because I can’t even fix my mouth to say the actual word). Many women do not understand what we possess. I personally believe that crime, poverty and a lot of other problems could be solved if women would use the power of the p-u-s-s-y, but that’s another book, so let me focus. Now keeping in mind that we as women possess a powerful weapon, why isn’t it as simple as boy likes girl, boy and girl get married, boy and girl have mind blowing sex, boy loves girl for the rest of his life? Believing that God carefully structured our private parts to fit our lover’s private parts (read: penis into vagina), why are men “force fitting” their penis into another man’s anus. It just doesn’t sound like it feels good. As a matter of fact, it sounds like it hurts like hell and most of the men I interviewed admitted that their first time was extremely painful but over time became pleasurable. Some would liken this to the natural process of man and woman intercourse. I mean think back to your first time, it probably wasn’t your most pleasurable experience and over time you have become more comfortable with your body and you know what you like and how to move to make it happen. However, I just can’t see how a man wouldn’t prefer to be snuggled up to a nice soft woman who smells good and whose vajayjay was created with nice warm natural juices to caress and coddle his penis! This thought led me to ask my guys about their sex life with women. I was amazed to find out that one of them has never been with a woman at all and has no desire to ever be with one! Now in my head I was thinking, “humph, all you need is a good piece of…” ya’ll know the rest. I mean this man has never had any! Never! How can you say you aren’t interested if you’ve never had it? Then there is the one whose mother suggested that he try a little taste of vajayjay after he confessed that he was gay and that he’d never been with a woman. And guess what… he did! And guess what else; he enjoyed it for five years! What?! And then, this is the one that pissed me off and made me scream “what a waste”; Charles says that not only did he enjoy sex with women; he also enjoyed cunnilingus and was very good at it! “What the hell? Do you know how many women are looking for a lover with skills below the border? Oh my gosh! What a waste!” Talk about panties in a bunch! I could not believe these men! If I wasn’t saved and married myself, I would want to give them all a little taste of my vajayjay just to see if I’ve got the power! LOL
• Have you ever been in a relationship or had sex with a woman?
Tommie: Yes I have been with a woman. Right after I told my mom that I was gay, she asked me if I’d ever been with a woman and I told her no. She asked me to please give it a try before I made up my mind…so I did. I had a girlfriend for 5 years. Me: 5 years? Were you faithful? Tommie: Yes I was. She was the one who was not faithful. Me: So you are telling me that for 5 years you did not desire to be with a man? Tommie: Well let me say this, I am a loyal person and before I decide to cheat on anybody I would rather just break off the relationship. Did I think about men? Probably so, but no I did not sleep with any men when we were together.
Nelson: I already answered this and you sounded like you were going to jump on me! LOL Me: LOL I was! I mean…I would. Moving on please!
Professional Reviews
Intimate Conversations with Fine Gay Men...What a Waste
HI! I finally read the book through its entirety and I loved it. It's poignant and honest. And it gives room to disagree on views of homosexuality, but still the space to embrace humanity. I thought it was carefully written and very ... well, just honest and real. The way chapters were presented did sound like a dialogue of questions that I've heard many many many times before. I liked that because it was easy to read. But also I liked how you provided your opinions. But the overall point was that disagreements were nothing more than disagreements ... so let's move on. I didn't feel judged. I didn't feel like I was put in a bad light at all. I didn't feel dehumanized. I thought the whole book was respectful. So thank you. It's been an honor to be included in your work.
Nelson
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Reviewed by LaToya Billingsley
9/18/2008
I enjoyed this book immensely! Questions I wanted answers to were answered. I have never had ill feelings towards Gas/Lesbian people and this book made me respect them even more. It takes alot to be openly gay. Also, I can understand why some stay 'in the closet' because there are alot of closed-minded people in the world. For this to be your first book it was a great read and a wonderful subject to write about. I can't wait to read your next book!
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