Category: Relationships Publisher: John Peter Davis
ISBN-10: 0615244637
Type: Non-Fiction
Pages: 132
Copyright: Aug 13, 2008
ISBN-13: 9780615244631
They met online, 500 miles apart. Her life was unraveling; going downhill fast. Could he save her?
Customer Review - Amazon October 2009 "John Peter Davis shares his three years experience of a relationship with a woman he met on the internet. The twist and turns of life and emotions will hold you captive to the surprising ending. I also found it very refreshing and compelling to have this adventure told from a man's perspective. The author manages to make you feel as if you are right there living the events with him. In a time when internet relationships are more and more prevalent, Brick Wall will make you stop and re-evaluate your initial feelings...but then again, the lessons learned would apply to any relationship no matter what the origin. Definitely a five star plus book. I would highly recommend the book as an excellent gift for any occasion."
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Copyright 2008 John Peter Davis
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ISBN 978-0-6152-4463-1
Description
Not knowing what tomorrow holds may be a blessing in itself. Had I known the drastic twists and turns that it would cause in my life I perhaps would not have said "Hello" to a woman that I met on the internet.
What ensued was an almost 3 year, intense, pay it forward experience like none you could imagine nor would ever want for yourself or wish on anyone.
We take chances in life on what we think is the right thing to do. The journey I embarked upon saving a woman's life in the process is an unforgettable one and I would do it again with no regrets.
Brick Wall shows what can happen when what we want collides with reality. While it could have happened to anyone, most would never have pursued the path that I took without hesitation.
Introduction
My head is spinning. I don't know where to start.
I ask myself, "When does it stop? When will things ever be normal? What is God doing to us? There is only so much a person can handle. Why Lord, why?"
This isn't a story that I ever wanted to write but it is a story that had to be written and the responsibility fell on me.
If someone had proposed this as a plot for a TV reality series, no one would have believed it saying it was too far fetched. If I hadn't lived through it myself, I don't think I would have believed it either.
It is about a very dear friend of nearly two years whom I met on the internet, my best friend Toni.
The identities and locations are unimportant. What is important is to share with you how much can and did go wrong for a person by making one mistake. That mistake eventually reshaped my own life and future. You will see how devastating the domino effect can be on everyone involved.
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The adventure begins. This is a completely true story. Writing it was started before the final events unfolded so relationships have changed during the almost three years that this took place.
I wanted to call it "Money Does Buy Happiness" because it was caused in most part by the lack of several thousand dollars.
I met Toni on the internet in spring 2005.
I am a widower although it didn't start that way. I had been married for over twenty years when I decided that I wanted a divorce. Before the legal proceedings could finish, my wife died in a car accident during a freak snowstorm on the first night of spring 1998. She was only a hundred yards from the driveway when it happened. Instead of getting divorced, I became widowed.
Life takes some bizarre twists.
I lived near Buffalo and Toni was from The Shore (central east coast), a separation of some four hundred and fifty miles. She also had been married for over twenty years and was trying to get out of the now unhappy marriage.
After we met, she lived through an almost devastating chain of events lasting well over a year.
Our relationship is intertwined throughout the story which is fortunate because she has told me all along that she doesn't know what she would have done through all of this without me by her side.
If I say I "took care of her," I don't mean it in any sexist way. We are equals in our destiny. I say destiny because our two paths merged into one. I strictly mean it in the sense that I took care of her when she couldn't do so herself.
Perhaps what I meant earlier when I said that "money does buy happiness," was that the lack of money can create unhappiness and in this case hardship causing extreme mental stress to the point of a near mental breakdown.
While this story will sound at times like it can't possibly have happened, trust me it did. I wish it hadn't, for her sake, because I cared so much for her and it hurt to see what she was going through.
My memory isn't the best so I may miss some important points or will have to intentionally omit some. At times it may seem like I am bouncing around in time and I will be.
That was my greatest problem with writing this story - how to sequence it. It isn't effective just writing individual chapters on each different situation that arose. That would take away the intensity. The way I present it illustrates how confusing and jumbled days often were and besides, the problems usually overlapped and so couldn't be treated separately.
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Part One
Spring 2005. From the first day that we started speaking in a chat room Toni and I talked on the internet for hours every night, some evenings as many as seven hours.
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