Women as well as men have the assumption that love hurts, that love cause pain and so on and so forth. But the reality is love doesn't do anything to anybody. People hurt people. The dictionary says love means to have strong feelings to feel affection for. But in the Bible it states that, “love is patient, it is kind, it does not boast or envy.” God is love. Is that not so? If God is love, and God doesn't hurt or bring pain to anyone then how can love hurt and be so painful? Everybody has their makings and different definitions of love and some will never take the time to understand the true meaning…
For example:
There are women that will cock their legs up to any man, and then get left with nothing but a wet behind and a swollen, stretched -out cooch. Why? Because they confuse sex with love, and think if a man sleeps with them then it means he loves them. A man can whisper sweet nothings in your ear to the sun comes up it’s up to you if you fall for it or not. His intention was not to be your knight and shining armor Cinderella. The only thing he came for is to bust a nut and move on to the next. And I know there are some women out there that are not looking for a prince but just to get laid. There’s no shame in their game… Their just playing the game like men all over the world is doing. Hmmm! Listen, it’s not cute be a hoe nor is it cute to end up with the virus. Learn how to be like me and my girl Madea (Tyler Perry) lock that thang down and you may end up with furs, cars and houses instead of a dinner and a movie. Not only that, but you would be respected in the end.
And what about Miss Ring around the Rosie... Looking for love in all the wrong places and faces because you rather have half of a man then no man at all. What’s that saying, “you rather to have loved then not have loved at all.” Why? Because in your eyes a man completes you and you are afraid to be without one. You do not need a man to complete you before you came out your mother’s womb you were already completed by God. Not only that but you came in the world alone and you will die alone. There will never be a man that will give you completeness but God. Honestly, most of these men aren’t worth fighting for and a few are. I’d rather be by myself and do GOOD by myself instead being with a man that I’m not sure whether he loves me or not. Understand your worth and the strength that you have. Respect isn’t given to you; it’s something that you must demand from another; because in the end men will always test you to see how far you’ll go.
And you Miss Destiny’s Child, who wants to cater to her man… those type of women are so desperate for a man that they’re willing to do any and everything in their power to keep him. You'll move him in, feed him, clothed him, put money in his pockets, let him lie around all day in your house and ride around all night in your car while you work like a dog trying to support his sorry behind. You'll accept all of his ways because you don't feel you deserve better. Listen, with acceptance come continuance. If you continue to accept what he does than he'll continue to do what he's doing. A man won’t change unless he wants to change or feel he has to. If he loved you then he wouldn't need to change because he wouldn't do anything that needs to be changed.
And let's not talk about those of you who will ride up and down highways on buses and trains trying to go visit a man in prison. Now let me pause this for a second… I’m not talking about those who are married or those who was taken care of by a man and he ended up in jail because it’s your duty to be down for him if he was down for you. But I’m talking about the ones who start as a pen pal and end up being labeled his wifey soon after. Now that that’s cleared up I’ll finish where I left off. You'll almost break your neck trying to make it to the nearest corner for you can hike up your skirt and let him dig all up in your raunchy stuff like nobody else is in the room. Not only that you'll even slob on his knob, or pull drugs out your stuff. All in the name of love, right? You sit around reading his promising letters with a smile on your face believing every word that is said. You believe in your heart that he’s the one and you will be waiting for him with open arms once they open those prison gates for him. Awh… you just so naïve. Get your head out of the clouds and understand the role that prison men have to play in order to get what they want. That man will use you until he has drained your bank account out and then write you a letter explaining why you need a man on the outside to take care of you. If you would go as low as digging in your stuff, giving him blow jobs and having sex with him in prison then what do you really think he’s thinking about you? Take note, shouldn’t no man be able to make you go out of character and make you disrespect yourself like that.
Then there are those of you, who would spend your whole welfare check (your kids money) lacin' your man while you parade around like a clown in polyester and pleather. While he's stylin' and profilin' in the latest gear with another woman. If anything my child would be wearing the latest fashion. No man should ever come before your child; not even you. If a man is going to be takin’ anything it'll be me and my child out buying us what we need. That's right; he'll be taken out his credit card, and the bags we got to his car.
Need I go on…? Yes, I must go on, I don't want to leave nobody out.
And you Miss 007 (double- o-seven)… these are the type of women who will stalk a man to try to keep him. You'll slash his tires, put sugar in his tank, break into his house to destroy his stuff, and then throw a brick into his window. You just have to make sure you're known. You'll prank call or even harass his wife or other woman. All in the name of love. Huh…that man is not about to call you trying to get you back. Honey, hate to burst your bubble but that man probably wouldn't want nothing else to do with your psychotic ass. If anything he's going to be looking to beat you down or call the police for a restraining' order. You're crazy and you need to see a psychologist because you are a woman that has a fatal attraction.
And you Miss Night Prowler… You'll drive around all night trying to spot his ride, and sit out there till sunrise and wait till he come out. Just to see who he comes out with. And even when you see it with your own eyes you'll still let him talk your dress up and your panties down. Ain't that much good rod in the world. You're just dumb as hell. All he's going to do is keep saying I'm sorry until he gives you a STD, and then that's when you have the nerve to get mad. Don't get mad now you accepted the STD when you accepted the fact that he was cheating.
And let's not forget Miss Inspector Gadget… You'll drive yourself crazy checking his pockets, wallet, cell phone, credit cards, checking account, collars for lip stick stains, smelling his clothes for unknown perfume, and even look in his underwear for sex stains. Have you ever heard the saying, "seek and you shall find." Don't go looking for something and then get all stupid when you find what you was looking for.
Then there are the groupies and jock-chasers. You'll spend your last dime searching around the world for a Hip-Hop, R&B, or NBA star. You'll suck him dry or have sex with anybody with celebrity status because you're dumb, desperate, and a trick looking for a treat. And if you do him right he might hit you up with a couple of dollars or buy you something nice and then go on to the next. You think its okay since you're having sex with someone with money; because you rather have sex with a man with money than a man with less. That only makes you a high class whore. In his eyes you're only a gold-digger chasing after his money, and someone that he doesn’t need in his life. It's simple; a superstar doesn't want anybody that spends more money than him.
And here goes Miss Cyberspace… You internet and chat room tramps are downright trifling. You'll put your pictures (naked) on the internet and even play with yourself just to show how freaky you are (this goes for the teenagers too). Your insecure asses will sit in front of a computer screen for hours clicking through ads in search for love and will run off with the first nut who responds to your pitiful cry for attention. Get a life, before you end up losing it trying to get up with a stranger.
Next, Miss Stuck on Stupid… your husband run around from bed to bed putting his penis up in everybody cunt but yours. When you find out you curse him out and put him out for a few days but all it takes is one phone call and you’re accepting him back with open arms. Why? Because you feel as though you can't find nobody else, and that's the only love you know. That's not love sweetheart, that's him having his cake and eating it too. You keep being stupid until he leaves you for someone who he feels is stronger than you. If you don't make him respect you then you won’t be respected. He's going to keep doing what he's doing, and you will still be stuck on stupid.
And last but not least. Miss Lonely on the Holidays… Now you are just pathetic. Where do you think he's going to be on Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day and all the other holidays? That's right, with his family where he belongs. Now he might be able to squeeze you in on April Fool's Day. Because that's what you is one big ass fool.
You create your own definition of love because you don't want to accept the real true meaning. Look in the mirror at yourself; if you can't love yourself then you won’t get love from nobody else. You have to know that your body is your temple and only you can allow someone to tear it down. Don't know good man want a rundown building, but if you have a man who will look over you flaws then he would be able to repair what you lack only if you change within self. Now, I'm not saying I'm perfect because I've done some things I'm not proud of, but I've learned from my mistakes and with God's help I've learned the true meaning of love. And no man can love me more than I love me. And I know I am all women, and that I'm worth more than gold. If you don't think highly of yourself then people will consider thinking low of you. Self-respect gives you clarity and helps you realize that you are somebody that deserves to be loved and cherished by any means necessary.
