Many people refer to the day they find out about their partner's affair as "D-Day." That day stands out in your mind. It tears your world apart and you desperately cry out for help. If that wasn’t bad enough, there is also the threat of those condemning questions you ask yourself about you and your spouse. Some of you may feel like you are caught in a self-destructive whirlpool. You know that your world is torn apart and feel lost as to what to do or where to begin.

‘After the Affair - Picking Up the Pieces’ takes you step by step from the point of D-Day crisis through your pain and confusion to getting over the hurt and finally communicating and rebuilding intimacy with your spouse. It is more than a marriage self-help book, this guide takes you step by step through recovery. After an affair you are easily overwhelmed by too much information. You already know what the signs of an affair are, and now you want to know what to do about it. ‘Picking Up the Pieces’ guides you in affair recovery, by knowing how to put your shattered life back and improving you’re the intimacy and communication in your marriage.

You will learn:

-What kind of questions are the best to use in affair recovery

-How the questions you are asking may be shutting down communication

-What the two of you need to talk about in order to improve marriage communication

-Ways of establishing and improving intimacy in your marriage.

-The danger of wanting all the secret affair details.

-The danger of acting more like a judge rather than being a spouse.

-The importance of self-care in affair recovery.

You will discover marriage communication problems and ways of avoiding them. You can find ways of encouraging your spouse to talk with you rather than shutting them down with common marital communication mistakes.

This guide takes you from where to start talking with your spouse, through how to confront and work through marital conflicts without shutting each other down. Although you think you are a good communicator, what you are doing and saying may actually be pushing your spouse away with bad habits. Those bad habits can be replaced with good communication habits using techniques like the ACTION principle and the “two-sentence” rule which are explained in this guide.

You will also learn ways of improving marital intimacy and honesty. You will learn ways of helping you and your spouse become more honest and solve the problems rather than the problems wreck your marriage.

An affair does not mean the relationship is over. Affairs change relationships. You can know how those relationship changes happen in your marriage and ways of dealing with them. Rather than be trapped by communication games, you can learn to bypass them and direct your communication straight to the heart.

Rather than suffering in a state of emotional helplessness, you can know what your options are in dealing with the affair. Divorce is not your only option. Before making premature decisions about what others are telling you to do, you can know what your options are. You can know what the benefits and drawbacks of such options as separation, divorce, and working through the marital affair.