I feel as though a lot of emphasis is placed on cellphones as well as social media sites. We probably have all heard by now some sort of situation involving Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. But the cell phone was the first culprit. In my book, The Cellular Effect, I first introduce who I am. I explain my younger years; I explain the relationships I was in, all to give you the set up as to why I remained in my marriage. My ex-husband committed awful offensives towards me, through his cellphone. To counteract, I changed what I was feeding. Anytime we are uplifted, our flesh is tested. I feed into the negatives. Scripture states that if we are to share in Gods Glory, we are to share in His suffering. There is a suffering we as believers are to endure. 1 Peter 4, states- If you are prepared to suffer for Christ you have decided to do away with immoral cravings; meaning, saying no to our flesh. I believe text messaging, picture messaging, Facebook, Twitter, etc., can cause discontent in relationships, if not used responsibly.      For example: My ex-husband came home one day and stated he did not want to be married anymore. He had found him a new love via picture messaging. His family member had sent him pictures of a female who stripped at a local night club and he chose to be with her. Moving forward, he moved out. A few nights later, he called from the hotel he shared with her, intoxicated while dialing my number. He neglected to realize there was a GPS locater on his phone. The Cellular Effect was published by a Christian publisher so I try to be tactful in the situations I mention. Use your imagination in this circumstance. He called me at 5:15am. I answered reluctantly. On the other end of the line was my ex-husband saying he was sorry. At the same time there was a female entering the room talking in his background. When she realized he was speaking to me, she took the phone away from him and told me he was with her now. I was nothing. She said she was better than me. She cursed me and called me out of my name. This female did not know me, how dare she speak to me in this way I thought? She then made a statement that made me ill, and still does to this day. She said, “tell your wife you’re with me eating my fat ***** now!” And you know what; He got back on the phone and said those very words to me. I was sick. I cried. I reacted. I responded to this EFFECT in The Cellular Effect.      I will tell you this; I forgave him and my insides through a fit. Sometimes it is uncomfortable to make the right decisions, but we must suffer through. I know that when God tells you to move away he will introduce you to something better. But I held on to the very thing God was attempting to move. I was not paying attention to the whispers. When He introduces you to something else, effects become easier to deal with. Whenever you give in, the flesh becomes stronger. You give it power. You must change what you are enabling; the cellphone, Facebook, Twitter. People should be mindful of what they post and need to hear about adverse effects from a first person point of view. Once you confront, you can begin to heal. It takes humility to walk above your issues; jealousy, envy, greed. God will never ask you to do anything with giving you the power to do it yourself. I stopped picking up my mate’s cellphone, checking his Facebook account to see his friends or worrying about his tweets. It is all debilitating to my spirit. I am not ready to fight against foolish issues anymore. So I do not look!   

Author of "The Cellular Effect" and "Does Grey Go With Pink?"