THE INSEARCH FOR LOVE BLACK WOMAN

     What pressure a single black woman have one her today. From wanting love, marriage, family and successful career, obtaining her goals without roadblocks from so-called friends, relatives and nonsense is a challenge all together. Love answer all questions concern hearts asked, and smooth all roads hurt or foolishness people pave. I wish that all black women could find love and forever remain that way, and I wish for those that cannot find love encounter men that are truthfully towards them. Unfortunately, the realm of the universe does not hinge on the feelings of my heart, more likely on confused and misguided emotions from people that take good things for granted. I have been in the presence of a black woman crying, and I have seen women verbally and physically disrespected from men that claim they love them. When I see a black woman or any woman cry, or hurt, it tears a hole inside me big enough for a truck. Why do men hurt their women, I thought I expounded on it in my book of the same name, however, when people are in search of what they know would complete them, feelings are going to be hurt. This however, leaves many black women confused and disappointed, because all they ask and want is for someone to love them, instead men rather build weapons then bridges that unite their heart with a woman. I know Heaven is a beautiful place, but I guarantee you that the holiest Christian woman would rather put Heaven on hold for the pleasure of being love by a man that completes her. Where does this leave a black woman that is tired of searching for love?

          In addition, in order for a black woman to find love, they must understand what love is, and whom they want it from. A black woman reach high in preferences, because bringing home the perfect man make everyone that doubted her smile with disgust. The problem is when you bring home the perfect man to show off hurts more when that man leaves you. And when he leaves you, everyone you tried to impress, will look at you as the problem, and behind your back tell that man why they are better than you. Looks are important, so are character, intelligence and respect for other people’s opinions. In order for you to find love, please follow these rules and forgive me for repeating myself.

I understand people make mistakes in the past and want them forgotten, unfortunately, they never will. When we look over our life as senior citizens, we should be proud of everything except the conditions we could not change. Many people are afraid to move forward because they are afraid people would conjure up past mistakes that do not define them today. There are notable celebrities today that have made mistakes and found ways to persevere, and you can persevere if you are serious of transforming your image. However, the reality is that society does not forgive or forget, and it would benefit a person to carve their own change in the world and let their new image speak for itself. There are people that have made mistakes in life, and the community wants to keep them criminals. A celebrity cheats on his wife and every one team up to crucify the character of the man. For instance, like Tiger Woods and Jesse James, I understand what they did was wrong, but it is between them and their wives. The world in which we live, builds its finances and livelihood on negativity, and trying to get their approval on your change would be difficult. If there are wives that refrain from sex with their husbands because of he has changed or have fallen out of love, than that man should divorce that woman or seek counseling. The only problem for the husband is that the courts are going to reward his vow-forsaken wife with everything. Society is so hypocritical, because a husband cheat, he is ostracized and vilified for life, however, a woman cheats and she is rewarded with cash and the kids that rarely grow up with their faithful father. Although some of us were unfaithful, if we expatiate with our wrongs, and avert from our nefarious past, we can love and appreciate it more the second time around.

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from the book:  BLACK WOMEN CAN CHANGE DIRECTIONS BY CHANGING CONDITIONS

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