Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!!  My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue?

Dear Reader:

Thank you for the compliment. I'm glad you liked the article. Crying on disagreement is probably something you learned as a small child -- it most likely prevented people from being harsh with you.  However, you've seen it doesn't work very well in adult life.  "Comforting the Little  Orphan Girl" will help you understand the source of your tears.  It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction  has specific exercises which will help you be more in charge of your feelings, so you can remain in adult mode when under stress. Best of luck with your relationship.

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