Todays male and his fast paced enviroment.

                             THE Y2K MALE.

 Is the twenty first century male flawed or spoiled? The last couple of year’s man bashing has become a popular past time, and for good reason. The average man is considered to be lazy, inconsiderate and un-romantic. Through out the decades man has evolved and grown into what is now considered to be “the man”. Yep, you “the man”…. It’s a “man thing;” which has given rise to a new species of man…. the “Dickhead” and the ever popular “Walking Erection” and I’m sure if you ask the female counterpart she will and can find a few more, But what is a man?

Well, depending on whom you ask. Is a man a complicated package of emotions that has no feeling? Does he disappear without a trace when responsibility stares him in the face? Will he take flight when the relationship gets rocky? Or will he listen to an opposing viewpoint and be open to discussion. Is a man self confident, sensitive and considerate or are these signs of weakness’ and how does strength figure into the equation.

Let’s face it; today’s man is a product of his past. Most men when growing up emulated a father figure, or maybe it was a very strong matriarch. Which gave us the basic foundation for our make up. So, does a sign of weakness makes him less of a man, does it make him less sexually attractive. Or is arrogance/overconfidence appealing. Self-confidence is a tool, overconfidence is a weapon. Should a man be vulnerable, and if so, is he still considered to be a man? Why is a man not supposed to cry, and should this emotion be seen by the ones he loves? Granted it’s always been harder for a man to show any sort of emotions. Is too much expected, or should he be accepted for what he is rather than what he should be.

How much creditability can be placed on sensitivity or emotions? The emotionless man, should he be treated with scorn and contempt. Is he still not a man? The sensitive considerate man…and there is still a few left…should he be nurtured, should he be preserved for the next generation? There is definitely something to be said for sensitivity. Most women would like to think that they have the market cornered as far as this emotion is concerned. True, one would have to look long and hard to find what is considered to be a sensitive male, or one that exhibits that quality. With the advent of dot.com, cell phones and lap top technology, it seems that most males are only interested in the I/Me syndrome. This is unfortunate, but ladies, don’t despair they are out there. The fact is today’s man needs to slow down, yes stop and smell the coffee, and here’s the kicker: even ask for direction, hell yes! You may actually find your way. Be secure in your self to make a commitment and stick to it. I know some men are afraid to commit, thinking they are going to loose more than material things. That’s also a possibility, and if that’s how you enter into a committed relationship, then that’s what you’ll get out of it…nothing… It’s not always going to be easy and there maybe baggage’s involved, but what’s so bad about an open discussion to resolve an issue. Often the heart does take a beating, but it will heal and you continue.

The Y2K male, is he flawed? Quite possibly…I haven’t met or seen perfection yet…is he spoiled? I think so, and is there anyone to blame? Well there could be an endless supply of sources to blame, but the one that will take a large portion of it is society. Ironically enough man created this little piece of heaven on earth. So you can actually say that man is his own worst enemy. R&B singer/entertainer James Brown sang it’s a man’s world…but it’s nothing without a woman or a girl…. Food for thought.

Errol Anderson.