How can we keep the love light burning and believe in the ever lasting love we heard about in stories as a child? Despite what many think about “the beautiful people” and their seeming success in all areas of life, nothing is perfect or easy.

How can we keep the love light burning and believe in the ever lasting love we heard about in stories as a child? Despite what many think about “the beautiful people” and their seeming success in all areas of life, nothing is perfect or easy.

Anything worth having is worth working for and must be worked towards. “Having more money” (it makes it easier to buy things, but doesn’t bring love.);

Owning “a bigger house” (unless you have the money to hire a housekeeper, it will only keep you from your love while you are cleaning.); “If I were better looking.” (Beauty really is in the eyes of the beholder. I have seen “less than perfect” people with “stunning” mates.” It really is about how you feel about yourself inside that will reflect outside.) All of these superfluous externals are fun, but don’t bring happiness or peace in a relationship.

Some of the richest people in the world with every luxury at their finger tips and people at their beck and call still have the nastiest divorces time and time again. Isn’t that a great example and lesson to all of us “not so fortunate” people who aren’t blessed with their lives and the kind of money they posses; that money doesn’t make a relationship happy?

Time, effort and determination are what make a relationship thrive. I’m not implying those people with wealth don’t put the time and effort into their relationships, only that all the things many people say, “If only we had…” won’t make your relationships last longer or be happier than theirs were.

Some of the best relationships have several things in common, one of those being laughter and a humor about life not to mention a lot of hard work. These are always a common thread for every thriving and joyful relationship I encountered.

What the people in these relationships have always told is: Work hard; don’t lay your head on the pillow angry, and resolve hurtful situations right away. Fundamentally however, they laugh with each other every day and laugh often.

But if your relationship is in the deep end of the pool without a life jacket, something that can help you light the love torch in your love life is Soul Gazing. Soul Gazing is the simple technique of gazing into your partner’s eyes. I usually recommend 15 minutes, but in the beginning, 4-5 minutes works.

You aren’t allowed to talk or look away from each other. I have witnessed Soul Gazing strengthen couples that were already on firm ground and help others on the brink of catastrophe.

To get the love you deserve, there is a very simple rule that I wrote about a while back: Love is a gift, it’s not a right. It’s is a decision, not a feeling. Make the choice to make your relationship strong so it will last the test of time and you too can have the long-lasting and profound love you deserve.

Jaci Rae’s grit and determination brought her from a poor childhood to a successful singer and author who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the "Female Vocalist of the Year" award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, TN as well as a #1 Best selling author.

Jaci is on the dating team of Savvymiss.com, the relationship expert for lovingyou.com and is a relationship advisor for loveisgreat.com and singlescafe.net. For more information, go to http://www.winningromance.com Jaci Rae is also a co-host for the show Concert's in the Sky with media mogul Jesse Dylan.

She is the author of The Indie Guide to Music, Marketing and Money, as well as Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time (Simon and Schuster), Shop for a Day with Jaci Rae and Collista's Search for the True Meaning of Christmas. Jaci spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. For more information, go to www.christmaswithlove.com www.shopforaday.com www.winningromance.com or www.jacirae.com

About.com Dating Guide lists Jaci's book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time in the top six of all time dating / relationship books.
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