The Problem of Tomorrow’s Kids
When the equilibrium of a child has been destroyed, it is very hard for the parent to cope with. This equilibrium helps a child to cope with his suffering, be it physical or emotional. Normally it is the responsibility of the elders to behave in a certain gentle and subtle way, in order to bring the child back into balance. Parents and adults need to act lovingly towards the children, to instill in them love for our environment. It is essential to treat children with care, understanding and serenity. The same holds true for the laws, they must not be imperative and absolute, but rather take into consideration the details of a particular case. It would be simplistic to attempt to cure all diseases with the same medicine. Any given problem has its solutions; the difficulty lies in truly identifying the problem. The doctor has to give his diagnosis before prescribing a remedy.
In the teaching field, and educator must possess the qualities appropriate to his profession. His attitude cannot be the same with every student; his role is to discover the various problems within each of them. With this knowledge, he can re-establish the peace of mind which was lost through diverse circumstances. In any case, that attitude rescues a child and generates a stream of confidence and friendship that flows between teacher and student.
If old problems are going unsolved, new ones are being compounded. An authority can only expect respect if that respect is deserved. We must do away with blind disciplines and rules which have no place in a modern society. When children become thieves, their parents and educators and society at large are responsible and the kids are the ones who lose their equilibrium.
The essential for an authority, parents, and educators is to know how to create a balance between the state of mind and the moral support. Those who do not have the capacity to fulfill such as role should have the courage to step down from their hierarchical position.
I think that there have to be firm proverbial brick walls in place with some things. (What else could I bang my head against when I am frustrated? hee, hee...) As Tevia in Fiddler on the Roof said...If I bend that far, I might break... I believe there is some truth to that...
Cryssa
P.S. I respectfully disagree that it takes a community to raise a child... helping in their respective areas is one thing, but when teachers and others try to parent my children... ARGH! Let's just say that it creates conflicts and room for manipulation that shouldn't be there... I will get off my soap box now.
Good, thoughtful article, Emile.
Micke
Imagine parents fighting everyday, using words forbidden for children to repeat but shouted to each other without consideration for the children present, then, sometimes scalating into physical violence.
Imagine those children getting to school where some teachers with also problems at home take a sadistic twist tormenting a few selected ones which no matter what never could prove their innocence.
Imagine those children going back after school to a parent still fumming in anger for a lost "discussion" and takes it physically over the ones that should had been protected.
Fear can ammount to such degree, equilibrium so broke that a twelve years old instead of punch his mother in the face for all the uncalled beatings just go away foreve...never looking back, but with a restored equilibrium.
Georg