Therefore, if you’re in any relationship you have to think of your communication as a bus. A man and a woman should stop and pick each other up each day just as if they were a driver making a bus stop. However, this is not always the case. Sometimes women are on the bus by themselves and a hidden issue just like a bomb gets on the bus with them. Suddenly, they go to getting upset as usual, talking fast, and before you know it the bus is out of control with no means of stopping. 

Now she becomes just like Sandra Bullock on the movie Speed. She doesn’t know it but she’ll soon be driving an out of control bus that could crash at any moment killing her and the whole relationship! Now just like on Speed when you all women are talking fast and getting upset the bus becomes a challenge for us men to get on with you. We men in this situation become just like Keanu Reeves character trying to find a way to get on the bus with a woman who has no brakes on her lips to stop talking and listen to him. Hell yeah this can be difficult just like in the movie but it’s not impossible. We as men have to step out of the drama and start taking back control of the bus. This may involve putting our lives at risk, but it is all too necessary if we are going to save the woman on the bus we love.

            But little do we know there’s a bomb in all of this just waiting to go off! It’s a bomb that could blow everything out of proportion at any given moment. The rules to the bomb exploding are simple. If she starts talking over 50mph there’s no chance of us winding up with a happy ending.

Secondly, there may be a good chance she can’t hear us for the roar of her the engine of her mouth. Third, if most of the time her mood is downtrodden it is going to be like a closed door of the bus. At this point we can do all we can to yell, Open up! But she won’t! 

This is our cue to switch to plan B which is to high jack the vehicle of communication to get her to listen to us. The key to this is than telling her the complete truth. With her mouth driving fast this no time to be slow to speak but we have to put the pedal to the metal and address the problem right away. This is what I call getting on the bus fellas. It will involve a leap of faith, but if we are straightforward with her we can jump and make it!

Remember though she is like Sandra Bullock now and may look at us crazy and ask, “Are you out of your mind!” Remain calm at this point and explain yourself to her to help diffuse the problem. Once you come to an agreement on what the problem is. You can begin making steps towards solving the problem.

Men this is where we need to pay close attention because she may reveal her fears. In Sandra Bullock’s case it was having her driver’s license revoked! In our case sometime we fail to listen to that fear and instantly revoke her thoughts feelings inside like a driver’s license. Of course this is not what we’re shooting for! We definitely don’t want add more gas to the fire so here’s where we can issue her an instant renewal emotionally. Even though the problem is still in motion all that matters now is that we assure her that we’re in this mess together.   By now you should’ve have lowered your voice and started to comfort her. This may involve getting her and the out of control bus off the issue for a moment so that both of you have time to think about what’s going wrong. Now it’s time to turn up the heat on the situation and be a real man and take control. However, we’re going to need help because women are a lot to handle when they’re upset sometimes. 

So it’s okay to call for backup! Now when I say backup I’m not referring to your boys. What I mean is communicating your troubles to God. He is your eye in sky and only he can see the overall situation and give you guidance on how to diffuse the bomb in your relationship. If we are obedient, God will put the power in our hands to take hold of the wheel with her and turn the relationship around for the better no matter what curves the devil starts to throw at us. With our new found connection to steer through trouble together she will start to trust you again. When she trusts again she will allow the man to drive the relationship. However, with things turning good we sometimes want the bus, which is her mouth to still stop moving. That should not be our objective but we need her voice to keep communicating to us until we get through it all! 

We have to assure her that we care and need to ask how she’s doing daily and ask, “What we can do to help?” Don’t get comfortable at this point either thinking you’ve done everything in your power you can do. Just as sure as you solve one problem there’s another crack in the highway of love soon forming a gap to send us crashing apart. By now that shouldn’t matter either because by now we should’ve have built strong lines of communication between each other which we can shape into encouragement. This way we can make each other press on like pressing the petal to the floor to jump high over the problems and great pits of downfalls coming on our horizon. This will always bridge the relationship! Make us stronger as a couple, totally diffuse the problem and make the devil, the want to be terrorist, disgusted with his attempts because in the end our love will be the Bomb!