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This is the question, the answer for which men need to know. Women in the sense, every woman,no matter to whatever country she may belong, any creed, race or religion.
Three things she mainly wishes for:
1. He should love her and her only. He should express that also.I mean Romantic. The polite they say, the gentle the man, and truthful the love.
2. He should be individualistic. Take his own decisions and should spend quality time with her.
3. There should be no secrets. Everything must be shared. Be truthful.
These are the basic qualities she require in her hubby.
Remaining differs from person to person. Some want rich guys, some want artistic people, some love sensitive kind, some wish the guy to be well-educated, some like reserved guys etc., depending on the personal taste.
God has chosen someone for us. HE will tie us to that significant special.
So whether we like or not, we have to respect and accept the relationship formed by the marriage.
Generally, girls are expected to be "Satrupa" means seven forms.
Kaaryeshu Daasi, Karaneshu Mantri,Bhojyeshu maata,sayaneshu rambha,
Kshamaya Dharitri,(the remaining two I forget,I will write when I find them).
A woman should serve her husband in seven forms. As a servant in his work,
As a minister in his affairs, As a mother in taking care of(she should shower love as his mother while serving him food), As a Rambha(she is deemed as the prostitute for Gods) to satisfy his sensual needs(means a woman should satisfy her husband's sexual needs as if she is a prostitute(it is said that prostitutes do anything to attract males),As earth in patience(In our(Hindu) mythology, earth is the most patient one in the world. She bears the weight and also the digging her,discharging waste on her etc.,).
But I feel Men also need to pamper their wives(Only one please). Treat her as kid, accept her as mother at times, share feelings as a friend,Be a romantic lover and a faithful, concerning and caring husband.
There is a saying: Mudithal Nervaga raani vidya kalade muddaara nerpagan.
Means: Does there any education(skill) that a woman can't learn if she is taught with love?
So, if your woman is not compatible to you emotionally, tune her to your frequency with love. There is no woman in this world who can reject her husband's proposal or request, if he patiently explains her, say something with genuine love.
Spend quality time with her. Communicate,interact. If you need to study anything, lay on her lap and read or study by sitting beside her.If you want to listen to music, enjoy with her. If you need to do some work, involve her. Help her also in her work. Make her a part in each and everything you do.
When there is necessary communication and mutual trust between wife and husband, their relationship will be everblossoming and love be evergreen.
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But now a days how many girls know "Satrupa" concept?
Modern women loosing their tenderness and becoming more rebelious.
Some of them cite them selves as feminists(but donot know what is feminism?).
A relation/marriage is an equilibirium which has to take care by both parties.Neither man is Inferior nor woman.Every body should realize about their duties instead of quarelling about the rights.
And here author used Rambha as....>(she is deemed as the prostitute for Gods).The word is too harsh.
But Rambha is DEVANARTHAKI whose duty is to entertain devaloka with her dance but not perform adultery with habitants of devaloka.
Nice work..