The Magic of Love
Fallin in love takes risks but it still makes the world go around.
We all write our own stories by reacting to events, making decisions consistent with our personalities and history. Yes, love makes the world go round. By our own nature we sculpt our relationships into love by taking risks. It has been said, “God gave us two ears to hear, two eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did God give us only one heart? Could it be because he wants to humble us into finding the other one?” Those who’ve never experienced love, may feel we are not loving people, not smart, or different than others. We may be defensive, afraid and isolated, carrying a lot of emotional baggage into our relationships. We’ve imprinted failure into our chances for love. Most believe to love life and life will love us back. Every day we must learn to take total and complete responsibility for our lives like in the poem below:
Waiting on Love
“Here I am like every other flower in the garden drinking in the pearled dew, and hour after hour a female willow trembles knowingly at our pain, a swan sings close by, both of us living by breath alone,
Sometimes I moan a little in self-pity, ”Where is my God, why has he forsaken me?” I shake my fist in the air, the weeping willows cry for me, we’re all feeling disowned,
We’re weak and weary standing here at attention, dreaming dreams no mortals dare to dream, the silence unbroken in my pearless pelvis while the weeping willow packs her trunk for our trip to Nevermore…”
by Joyce White
Why do so many of us keep searching for love? Everyone is so afraid they’ve settled. Misery is like an internal clock that keeps our minds unsettled. If we want romance, we need to take risks. We also need to learn to learn how to draw others to us. Smiles beget smiles. No one wants to be around misery. After all, we are genetically programmed to need joy. We like to hang around those who give us joy. We are masters at inventing excuses to justify why we don’t trust ourselves and others. When loners go out, we find a chair to sit in. We take our coat off and drape it over the back of the chair. We have established our territories thinking…My chair. My world. We are coiffed, perfumed and eager yet we forget we must have something more to offer than enthusiasm. When others approach us, our voice of optimism says, “I’m happy to meet you.” Our voice of negativity says “Tell me what you can do for me before I let you sit down.”
Love doesn’t come easy for many of us. Since ancient times we’ve learned to create philters to encourage our chances at attracting love. The word “philter” comes from the Greek philtron, meaning “to love.” Philters can be created safely by crafting them of lightly scented waters or vinegars, but the most potent ones are made from essential oils that can be used to anoint key points on the skin. We women use these philters as perfumes, lip gloss and lotions, by dabbing them on our pulse points, between the breasts and on the back of the neck, all accepted erogenous zones. Men likewise use very masculine, clean lotions and perfumes to attract women. Both genders have the same goal in mind. Sex. Intimacy and Lasting Love. Dr. Tina Tessina, Relationship Expert, says, “O thorny Rose! Were you easy to pluck, would you fragrance be as sweet?”
Edain McCoy, in her book, Bewitchments, tells us how to make love potions. Begin with a small red or clear glass bottle and fill it half to three-quarters full with a neutral-scent base oil such as olive, flower or almond. To this base add three drops each of oils known to foster romance such as rose, sweet pea, apple blossom, or honeysuckle. You may use crushed herbs instead to lightly scent the base oil. Use three drops of only one scent or two of one scent and one of another. These oils will be the catalyst for your will alone. It is a good idea to spot check inside of your forearm a day or two before casting potion, to make sure there is no allergic reaction. The vile must be filled with your best intentions, pure of task, and pure of heart to work. Give vile as a gift to the one you want dreaming of you. Give him or her instructions to dab some of the mixture on their forehead and temples before going to bed. They will be filling their conscious with perfumes of your conscious, hopefully, their dreams will foster love for you.
Celtic folklore tells us a story of a woman who goes out at dawn on May Day morning and washes her face in the dew that settles on a hawthorn tree will be irresistibly beautiful. Queen Guinevere, a practitioner of May Day beauty ritual, was immortalized in song and dance in Lerner and Lowe’s musical version of the Camelot story. A rose bush, honeysuckle plant or leaves from a tree that seem to you to possess “come hither” energies. I personally enjoy using Vanilla, Lavender, Oatmeal, and Coconut to make soaps and candles. Enjoy yourself and try blending these herbs into fragrances sent to us from the Gods. An old English nursery rhyme, says “The fair maid who, on the first of May, Goes to the fields at break of day, And bathes in dew from the hawthorn tree, Will ever strong and handsome be.” Check out some more love potion spells.
No matter what words were used, love quotes were said and written out of inspiration to get and give love. How can we honor ourselves with love, knowing that we continually ignore the callings of our own inner voices? Layne and Paul Cutright, in Straight from the Heart says “A guilty mind expects punishment. Guilt will cause you to attract people and/or situations to validate your unresolved guilty thoughts about yourself.” If you are unconsciously punishing yourselves by withholding the love, success and abundance you desire, you might have to resort to magical love potions. When one sculpted heart calls out to another through magic, each must deserve love before it can blossom.
