I used to spend a lot of time being offended by almost every thing. What a waist of pure God source energy.

Here is what I think is important to note about the ‘n-word’:
 
The 'n-word' is just a word. I am not about to give my power over to a word. Therefore, the ‘n-word’ holds no power over me.

One can ‘n-word’ me all day long. I’m not sure what the one who would be doing the ‘n-wording’ would expect me to do.

I don’t use the ‘n-word’. However, I don’t use the ‘f- word’ or any of the ‘b-words’ either. I don’t use them because I don’t think they are necessary for me to get a point across.

Secondly, even here at the age of 64, I can still hear my mother threatening to do something awful to us if she ever heard one of her children cursing or using inappropriate language. I believe the thing that was so scary was that I was never sure what it was she was going to do. However, I was sure I didn’t want to find out.

I grew up in an environment where everyone I knew frowned upon the use of profanity. I don’t even recall my father, who was an alcoholic, ever using profanity. And, of course, my mother never used so-called inappropriate language when we were growing up. However, I do have to admit that my mother made up for lost time when her children became adults.

As an adult, I recall visiting my mother and wondering how she had learned to curse so proficiently. Perhaps she always knew, but chose not to when she was around her children.

When I started college, my dormitory roommate was just as unhip as I was. We used to spend hours in our dorm room practicing cursing in an attempt to fit in better with the more popular students.
 
There were some students who just had the gift of cursing naturally and instinctively. The so-called curse words would just roll effortlessly out of their mouths. At the time, I was impressed.

No matter how hard my roommate and I tried to sound cool with our cursing and fowl words, we just sounded phony and corny. I never achieved the ability to say profanity to the point where it sounded natural. So, I eventually gave up and decided to embrace my life as someone who just spoke normal, everyday, so-called acceptable English language words.

Today, in private, I’m pretty good with the ‘s-word’. I say it sometimes when I make a mistake, physically hurt myself in some way, or I hear about a new rule or law that just doesn’t make any sense to me.
 
I don’t use the ‘f-word’ very often. I don’t think I’ve ever used it around others – unless it was a really close friend or someone I felt very comfortable around. I use it to show how unbelievable something is to me. For example: “What the ‘f-word’!

My favorite inappropriate phrase to use — and, I don’t even know if this is even considered cursing. I like to say, “Oh ‘h-word’ no!” Do you get what I’m meaning here? The ‘h-word’ that rhymes with 'tell'. Is that still considered a curse word or a bad word?

In any case, I like saying “Oh ‘h-word’ no!” for laughs when I’m with close friends. I don’t just say it. I say it with attitude and with body movements and I wave my finger when I say it. I say, “Oh h-word, no!” when I’m trying to express that I’m not going to do something that someone wants me to do.