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Simultaneous love relations have thrived in all cultures and in all times, but are rarely taken into account.
Some people speculate about which mind qualities survive the demise of our physical body, only to reappear in different shapes and in a renewed context. As this issue belongs to the realm of personal faith, it doesn’t make sense to approve, to disapprove or to argue. I would like, however, to roll out a personal opinion in front of you, based on several flash-back memories, dream experiences and a careful analysis of our lives and emotions. Let’s first deal with qualities that seem to originate in a one-life-only context, and which are erased at the end of our life times. These are (according to my opinion, of course):
- An individual, complex framework of mental and emotional entities, often called ‘soul;’
- Particular personal talents (music may be an exception);
- Tongue and ethnicity;
- Gender and (possibly in some cases) sexual orientation.
Other mind qualities seem to have a more robust nature, and may be resurgent in a new existence. These are:
- Courage;
- A strong sense of justice;
- Curiosity;
- Compassion;
- Affinity to certain materials (in my case: leather), and food;
- Emotional affinity, attraction to certain persons and places;
- Joy and humor;
- An overwhelming sense of belonging, a sense of coming home in love relations.
The last point is the main topic of this article. It can form the crux of many problems – just look at the many love poems here on the den. Love relationships were and are some of the most powerful experiences in our minds, and can mark us forever. The problem (but also our richness) is, that we may have woven hundreds, if not thousands of very strong and vibrant love relationships over countless times in a human sphere. These emotional connections can be reactivated at any moment – a glimpse of an eye lash may do the trick. The results are well known: desperate and profound love relations, Romeo and Juliette etc. They cannot be easily overcome by willpower.
The problem is, that most legal systems in our world do not cater for parallel love relationships. Most laws allow only sequential polygamy and polyandry, that’s why there are so many marriages, divorces, and murders. When I watch soap operas on TV, it makes me wonder: the whole drama seems to dance around issues, such as ‘I love this lady, which means I have to dump the old partner,’ or , ‘I fell in love with this other man, which means I have to divorce now.’ We seem to know only either-or, and are ignorant of as-well-as.
Our western societies have not discovered ways to solve the emotional and legally complex ramifications of simultaneous love relations. Cowardly, our legal and religious leaders have run away from this subject, despite of its obvious significance. Some so-called ‘primitive’ cultures have often dealt with the above issue in far more imaginative ways: in Mauritania, and the Ladakh region in the Himalayas, polyandry (one woman, several legal male partners) is tolerated in families, where several brothers share one wife. Polygamy (one man, several legal female partners) is fairly widespread in Africa and Latin America, although it is only officially recognized in the Congo, Zaire and Mexico.
The bottom line, the real question for me is this: how can we develop the immense wealth of our (love) relations, farther develop borderless love and happiness, and do this without hurting others?
(c) 2004 by Franz L. Kessler
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In Bhutan's citizen database, there are records of women having multiple concurrent husbands. My Bhutanese friend told me that it is not uncommon in remote villages of the country where there are fewer women than men.
Sincerely,
Regino
I was regressed years ago by a professional with Edgar Cayce's Association For Research And Enlightenment. I'd never been hypnotised before and while I study aspects of parapsychology and related topics, I went in skeptical, even opening my eyes several times when we were all supposed to be relaxing with our eyes closed while being lead through this group regression. At the moment we were supposed to "see" something from our past life, I did! It was presented in my mind in a way I now associate with how things look when you're dead (tricky to describe, so I'll skip it right now), and I learned, to my chagrin, that I'd lost somebody extraordinarily special to me. Since then, I've been looking for her...and I've recently found her. Trouble is, we're both in relationships already and while mine is open enough to allow exploration of this topic, hers is not at all. Synchronicity and odd events occuring since our discovery of each other have lead me to believe I'll get a second chance in this lifetime, but it's hard to wait and see, y'know? Does this mean I believe in reincarnation? I seem to be leaning toward it, don't I? Guess I'll just take my own advice and find out when I'm dead. Besides, if it is true, we'll get more chances to hook up down the road in future lives. I'd sure like to just at least be friends with her now though...gotta respect her significant others' wishes, of course. Sigh...