A husband asks his wife if she wants to (choose the one that fits your situation): have sex, buy a new car, get a dog, go for a walk, etc. and his wife says. "Whatever, you want to do" or she says, "I am not in favor of it, but you are going to do it anyway", or she says, "O.K."
Any of the above answers are interpreted by the male as "Yes do it."
What the male does not understand is that the many women say, "Yes" and then resent the man for proceeding ahead with the action.
The motivation for the female can be a variety of reasons: desires no conflict, feels unloved or threatened if she implements her rejection, or lastly gives in because there is a cultural dictate still hanging around that women should demure gracefully with requests. (See What is a Lady? for more details) This attitude is not recognized by the public and therefore the public is oblivious to its power over ones actions (See Power Stories for more details).
No one is made to do any thing, it is a choice. The choice may be life or death but it still is a choice. If the case may be made that it is a cause and effect ,then, everyone would react identically under similar circumstances. Instead people have chosen to be burned at the stake rather than give up their core beliefs.
Choices may be understandable due to the threat of torture, death, or discord, but they are still choices.
Choices can include resentment, resistance, or agreement towards the values, morals, ideology, persons, groups, or nations. Nevertheless they still remain choices.
Responsibility for our decisions and actions is very important so that we can accept them and therefore improve on them. We must own our choices and take responsibility for them before we are able to choose differently.
Terrorists feel they have the right to kill due to their own choice of doctrine. Does anyone believe that the victims are responsible for the terrorists choice to murder them? Only the terrorists themselves believe that the population is responsible for their angst, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, abhorrence, non-gratification, desolation, and wretchedness.
Concepts, theories, convictions collide since the beginning of man such as with: religious wars, wars over ownership of property, wars over distribution of finances.
Advertising connects needs and wants of the public by identifying the underlying desire and convincing the public that they must have their product. Is it the advertiser's fault when an individual overspends his/her income?
Gambling casinos create attractiveness of fun and possible wealth to entice gamblers. Is it the casino's fault if the individual becomes addicted? Or is it the responsibility of the individual to know if they should gamble and if they do, how much should they spend and when to stop?
These are all examples of allowing or giving away ones responsibility to follow their own belief system, and then blame their choice when it effects someone else.
The choices that individuals choose determine the outcome. The outcome will depend on the current belief systems accepted by the overall demography of concepts and values.
Certainly, in marriage relationships, one spouse may agree to something and then resent the other spouse later. But this is not healthy. It's why scripture tells husbands to "dwell with your wives in knowledge." A grimace or other gesture should be recognized as evidence that the thing agreed to was not the best idea or the agreement made under duress.
As for terrorists and other belligerents, it's also true that believing a lie is a choice. Most of us do know disbelieve what is true due to ignorance. We disbelieve the truth or choose to believe a lie because we have a personal stake in the matter. That may be simply an unwillingness to admit to ourselves and others that we've been wrong. The longer a lie is embraced, the more difficult it seems to be to release it.
Some interesting anecdotes about what motivates us to do what we do. Throughout my life, I have found that I don't ever just, "go along with the program." I always think about my decisions and would never do anything that would affect others. It is really sad to see those people who get addicted to various things and then managed to hide it by affecting others.
I just hired a pleasing woman who had struggled with a weight problem. She solved it by having surgery and now has a good figure but a problem with the excess skin and self-image that she hasn't yet come to grips with. She still has a food addiction because she has been secretly eating my food without asking. We have confronted her with it, but she doesn't want to acknowledge that she has, covering up by bringing food and offering it to us… The unhealthy kind of snacks that lead to food addiction and that we don't eat normally.
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It's almost Christmas. Lynn Basil is writing her last book about a secret entrance into the magical doll land of Sha Bebe that she loves so much. Bagannos have taken over the world! Lynn finally meets her dolls in real life. Can she write in a Secret
As for terrorists and other belligerents, it's also true that believing a lie is a choice. Most of us do know disbelieve what is true due to ignorance. We disbelieve the truth or choose to believe a lie because we have a personal stake in the matter. That may be simply an unwillingness to admit to ourselves and others that we've been wrong. The longer a lie is embraced, the more difficult it seems to be to release it.
I just hired a pleasing woman who had struggled with a weight problem. She solved it by having surgery and now has a good figure but a problem with the excess skin and self-image that she hasn't yet come to grips with. She still has a food addiction because she has been secretly eating my food without asking. We have confronted her with it, but she doesn't want to acknowledge that she has, covering up by bringing food and offering it to us… The unhealthy kind of snacks that lead to food addiction and that we don't eat normally.
Ron