I received several phone calls from some of the women i've known. All of them were suffering from series of abusive relationship. Some were verbally abused or physically abused.The question is how long are we going to stand being in an abusive relationship.
The main concern here is why an individual is scared to leave their partners? In one of the case, the victim was unemployed, whilst the partner is a carpenter. He used to beat her up with an plier whenever he's drunk. She's too scared to leave him because she was too dependent on him.
The second scenario is a successful professional lady who's caught in an abusive relationship with her partner of 10 years. Her reasons for staying with him was she does not want to be alone and single while her other peers have a family.
The third case was she does not mind being abused as it has been a tradition throughout her life,from childhood to teen years.
The fourth case is a man who is obese, but literally being abused verbally by his girlfriend.The impact is tremendously hard on him as it played with his self-integrity and morale.
What do these people have in common? The answer is fear. The first case, dependancy factor, the second, fear of being alone,the third its a norm for her and the fourth case is his self-confidence.
How do we get out of this situation.There is no easy way out:-
First, you have to get help, Confide in someone that you trust.
Second, find a support system, ie report to the police regarding the injuries, if possible get the evidence, photograph the bruise or any physical trace of the abuse. It's hard to prove psychological abuse, but in due time it may be proven by a psychologist.
Third, stand up for yourself. It may surprise your partner, he or she may be scared by your brave reaction. Its either he/she will stop abusing you or vice versa.It does not matter as long as you fight back
Fourth, just walk away. Build a new life. Start fresh, have faith and believe.
It does not matter, if you're going to make it on your own. Just have the courage.It is hard to walk away when you already have a family ie children. But reassure them that you no longer can stand the abusive treatment from your partner.
Remember that you're not walking alone in life,there will always be a helping hand that's willing to help.After a period of time victims of abusive relationship needs some counselling or professional help as there will be scars that will remain in their heart.
I applaude women or men that's willing to take the first step walking out from an abusive relationship.
