If anyone falls in love after marriage with some other person, what should he/she do? If he/she have any kids, then how to proceed? This is a topic of discussion in another site. I expressed my response in this way.

This kind of feeling arises only because of lack of understanding and interaction between the couple. If proper respect and mutual love is there, then also they need to communicate properly and reserve some time in a day only for themselves so that they can spend quality time together sharing their feelings. It is not important how much you provide or serve the other person, the only thing that matters is how much care and concern you show. The pampering is required. We need not express our love before everyone and all the times but we should express it when we are alone and whenever we are alone.

When will the question of love on other persons arise? When any of the couple are sentimental, emotional and the other person overlooks their feelings and remain casual. So the person naturally feels emptiness. There are some people who wait for such an opportunity and cleverly traps the other person. In most of the cases, this is only the reason.

Ofcourse we shouldn't suppress our feelings or desires, we can't cheat our own heart, but there is a sacred factor in marriage, a holy relationship. Marriages are made in heaven. This is very much true . If there are any differences, we should try to overcome them, settle it, but shouldn't think or search for another way.

Once you are married or agreed to marry a person, then their dreams and desires will be directed towards us and they make us a part of their lives. We shouldn't break the confidence of them on us. There will be no great love than that of a life partner.( I very much agree, most people do not live as they are expected, as they promise at marriage time).

The important possible reasons for the quarrel : If we or our partner love someone and unfortunately couldn't marry. In this situation, we should live alone if we wish so. If we agree to marry another person, then we should share it(do not keep it as a secret) and you should be devoted to your partner only. Both should try to adjust with the sentence of God for they can't escape HIS decision.

The second reason may be, if the partner is so rude and harassing type and if no one can convince him/her, then you should try for divorce and then can think of second marriage(or love whatsoever). If we have children, then we must be careful and responsible. We should teach them morals and our behaviour and attitude will have a strong impact on their mental development.
If separation is inevitable, then only we can think in that way. Even then also, we first need to know whether we are acceptable to the other person with our children or not. We should consider it very carefully.

Anyway, Feelings when our mental state is not normal are not final or proper. So we shouldn't take any decision based on those feelings. We should respect the institution of marriage.

Mutual love and understanding, commitment and respect leads to a very happy and conjugal marital life. Whether it is love or arranged, we should try to work for this understanding. My feeling is Youth must be given freedom to chose their life partners.