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Green, Yellow and Red Lights
by William S Cottringer
Last edited: Thursday, January 30, 2020
Posted: Wednesday, January 29, 2020



     
Sometimes language makes understanding life, self-management and dealing with other people, more difficult than it needs to be. By classifying emotions as being either positive, negative or neutral, we can better take advantage of their purpose in guiding our thinking and behavior.

 

GREEN, YELLOW & RED LIGHTS

By

Bill Cottringer

 

 

“Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. 

     The sheer power of the number three, or dividing things into thirds, is probably one of the first governing principles of the universe discovered and put to good use by humankind. Whether this wise idea came first and was then put into practice or we practiced it first naturally and later put a name to,  is not for certain. Regardless, the examples of the practice of dividing things into threes is abundant all around us, starting of course, with the fundamental physics particles of the universe being classed as positive, neutral or negative. Here are just a few practical uses of this important governing principle:

·         The awesome strength of the pyramids is magical and truly amazing.

·         Three-digit area codes are much easier to remember than seven-digit phone numbers.

·         Tri-fold dinner menus and sales brochures are the most appealing presentations.

·         The creative process itself starts with exploring one extreme, moving to the opposite extreme and then landing somewhere in the middle.

·         There is complete extravagance and total abstinence and then there is moderation.

·         Teachers and managers deal with three groups of students and workers: The top third where little time or effort is needed for success, the middle third where more time and effort is needed, and the bottom third where even more time and effort tis needed to achieve success.

·        There are Republicans, Democrats and Independents.

·         The three main components of human behavior are thoughts, emotions and behavior.

·         Three important aspects of successful photography are lighting, perspective and composition.

  • And for the Christian folks in the crond, we have the Trinity of the Father, Son and Holy Ghost

·         The three colors of traffic signals—green, yellow and red—are universally understood to mean go, caution and stop.

     Although language may have been instrumental in discovering, understanding and practicing this governing principle, language may have inadvertently taken things past the point of no return and turned the simple into being much more complicated than it needs to be. Take emotions or feelings for example. One exhaustive study identified 27 distinct emotions:

 

  • Admiration
  • Confusion
  • Interest
  • Adoration
  • Craving
  • Joy
  • Aesthetic Appreciation
  • Disgust
  • Nostalgia
  •  Amusement              
  • Empathetic pain
  • Romance
  • Anxiety
  • Entrancement
  • Sadness
  • Awe
  • Envy
  • Satisfaction
  • Awkwardness
  • Excitement
  • Sexual desire
  • Boredom
  • Fear
  • Sympathy
  • Calmness
  • Horror
  • Triumph

 

    A simpler and more useful characterization of emotions should probably identify what these emotions mean to our thinking and behavior, or their essential purpose for existing in the first place. Once again, these 27 different feelings can be better understood and more useful when grouped into threes, following physics particles being divided into positive, neutral and negative, or the three traffic signals of green, yellow and red. This way, the meaning or purpose of these emotions or feelings becomes clearer to guide our thoughts and behavior in the right direction:

·         Positive emotions are a green light confirmation that our thinking and behaving are headed on the right path, so it is okay to keep proceeding in this particular direction.

·         Neutral emotions are a yellow light caution, to remind us to pause and think about whether we should be—stopping, going straight, or turning left or turning right--depending upon the situation being one of opportunity or danger, or open to the consequences of what we are thinking and/or doing.

·         Negative emotions get our immediate attention, as a kind warning to stop and think about what we are thinking and doing and consider changing our approach which may be misleading us down the wrong path of a needless detour or dead end, possibly full of bruises or broken bones. 

    The next time you are in a situation where you feel one of these 27 emotions from admiration to triumph, try to view the feeling in terms of being positive, neutral or negative and what this means to you in regards to what you are thinking a or doing. This may very well be the best way to discern the truth from fiction and the absolute from the relative tentative truth. 

“In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.” ~Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

 

William Cottringer, Ph.D. is Executive Vice President of Puget Sound Security in Bellevue, WA, along with being a Sport Psychologist, Business Success Coach, Photographer and Writer living on the scenic Snoqualmie River and mountains of North Bend. He is author of several business and self-development books, including, Re-Braining for 2000 (MJR Publishing); The Prosperity Zone (Authorlink Press); You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too (Executive Excellence); The Bow-Wow Secrets (Wisdom Tree); Do What Matters Most and “P” Point Management (Atlantic Book Publishers); Reality Repair, (Global Vision Press), Reality Repair Rx (Publish America); Thoughts on Happiness; Pearls of Wisdom: A Dog’s Tale (Covenant Books, Inc.) Coming soon:  A Cliché a day will keep the Vet Away (Another Dog’s Tale). Bill can be reached for comments or questions at (425) 652-8067 or ckuretdoc.comcast.net.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Reviewed by William Cottringer
Reviewed on January 29, 2020
Excellent point Ron--about pyramid strength being strengthened by multiple triangles (four according to my calculation?). Maybe bricks should be triangular instead of rectangular? Personally I don't think pyramids design came from this world. Thanks for stopping by for the read!

Reviewed by Ronald Hull
Reviewed on January 29, 2020
An interesting article on the concept of how three is very important when it comes to function and emotion. As I read, I believe there is one more important addition. The triangle. Considered the strongest structure in nature and in science. One reason why pyramids are so long-lasting, even in areas of geological upheaval like Central America. Pyramids are made up of multiple triangles.

Ron


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