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How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together co-authored with Riley K. Smith Check it out here: http://tinyurl.com/zbe63u9 Please take a look and tell me what you think.


Happiness Tip: The Psychological Benefits of Laughter

There is a blessing in the joy of shared laughter. Try it: get cartoons or jokes that pop up on your computer every day, share a joke you got via e-mail or talk to friends and co-workers about the funny scene in the latest hit movie. Laughter will lower your blood pressure, calm your pulse and generally help you and your friends and family to release a lot of stress. Experts on healing now say that laughter and humor, hope and happiness are an important part of any healing process.

The benefits of laughter are numerous and the existence of frequent, warm laughter in your relationships indicates that all is going well, and gives you both confidence that problems can be overcome.

If something frustrating is happening, try easing the tension with a bit of humor to change stress to silliness. Don’t poke fun at your mate, but use shared humor as a way to say “I know this is tough, but we’ll get through it.” Your mate will think of you as someone soothing and helpful to have around when problems happen, because you represent fun and happiness to each other.

A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or your pet did) or watching a funny movie or TV show will lower your blood pressure, calm your pulse and generally help you release a lot of stress. Laughing with your partner is good for your heart, gives you a little bit of aerobic exercise, and reminds both of you about how good you are for each other. Shared laughter also synchs up your emotional rhythms, which makes it easier for you and your partner to feel connected and intimate with each other.

Loving, shared laughter also enhances self- acceptance. The paradox seems to be that having permission for child-like play also gives permission to be responsible and self-accepting. When you don't make nasty jokes or cruel remarks about each other and your love, and make silly ones instead, you can laugh with each other, and feel good about it. It's also difficult to store up resentments against the person in your life who makes it easiest for you to laugh.

Try if and soon you’ll find yourself looking for ways to make each other laugh Try pushing your partner’s “laugh buttons” and tickling his or her funny bone and you’ll see how much fun it is.

Instead of treasuring old grudges, and hurts, learn to treasure old jokes and funny lines. Shared laughter can evoke an overwhelming feeling of warmth and caring for each other. The endorphins released by mutual humor flow through both of you, and create joy. Humor is the secret in both keeping your love fresh and alive, and in feeling confident that you will not lose your specialness to each other.

The less you struggle, the more you’ll laugh and play. Struggle can become addictive and be used in relationships to structure time; but when you replace the drama of struggle with the delight of humor you can create positive addiction; and a powerful solution for what to do with your time together.

© 2017 Tina B. Tessina
adapted from: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together http://tinyurl.com/zbe63u9

If you want more, here are some related articles you can download from my website at tinatessina.com/monthly_column.html

HAPPINESS TIPS FROM TINA
Anticipating Change
Aspects of Love
Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude
Attitude Adjustment
Better Intimacy, Better Sex
The Colors of You
Couples Can Cooperate for Success
Creating Unconditional Love
Detox Your Life
Do You Understand Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Hygiene
Emotions as Weather
Give Yourself a Gift
Giving Thanks
Gratitude, Kindness and Happiness
How to be Irresistible to Your Mate
How to Stay Young
Humor & Hope
The Importance of Humor
Kindness and Happiness
Make New Friends, Keep Good Friends
The Meaning of Life
The Power of Politeness
Relating With Love
Response-Ability
Three Little Words
To Keep the Romance Alive
Turn on Your Charm
When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships
Why Couples Fall Out Of Love

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