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Marriage Talk 4

A man may know,

or think he knows,

whether the woman he is with is

or is not enjoying what he does to her, what,

hopefully, he does for her.

Yeah, okay, the young man

knew he had a premature ejaculation

problem brought about by what

he considered very infrequent sex

that caused him to build up a

head of steam that blew

pretty easily and rather quickly.

But before actually ‘entering’

he would always spend as much time

as she would allow with foreplay…

Hell, the young man loved foreplay!

If the man is any type of

a conscientious individual he never,

never wants to know that the woman he’s with

—especially if he loves that woman—

is pretending,

because if she’s pretending about that

then it’s open to, maybe,

never enjoying anything the man might do!

Thinking, Maybe I never do anything right!

Maybe I’m not man enough to satisfy her!

Hell, “pretend” even opens it to the possibility that…

Maybe she’d be happier with a guy with a bigger dick!

Also, when he did his best to excite her,

she uttered not a sound,

not even a sharp intake of breath.

When she lay with her legs open,

with not even the slightest movement,

is this also pretending?

If so, why?

There are any number of things

The young husband may

 or might not be,

but he was highly conscious

and conscientious of other peoples’ feelings.

Especially his wife’s.

Especially regarding sex.

When faced with “pretend,”

thoughts hurtled through the mind of the  young man,

and the effect was,

to say the least,

shattering.

“ ‘Fighting me off’?”

the young man asked incredulously .

“ ‘Pretend’?

 You really don’t like doing ‘it’ with me,

do you?”

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Maybe, the young wife thought,

I made a mistake telling him ‘I pretend’.

Even so,

Really, she further thought,

I don’t give a damn!

Sighing, “No,” she said,

“that’s not altogether true .

That’s not always the way it is.

Sometimes I do like having sex with you.”

“ ‘Sometimes’?”

the young man mockingly questioned.

“You mean every now and then,

‘occasionally’,

you like making love…

excuse me;

‘having sex with me’.”

“Yes, sometimes it is that way.

I hate ‘just’ having sex with you

because when it’s ‘just’ sex

it seems like it’s only for you.”

“I don’t quite follow you.”

The husband seriously asked,

“What do you mean by,

 ‘just sex’?”

“Without love.”

Sighing, the wife said,

“Without love.”

Disbelievingly questioned,

his words whispered,

“ ‘Without love?”

Intercourse still a spiritual experience

possibly because he’d only had

completed intercourse with

his wife and did not,

and could not make a distinction

between love and sex

because in his mind they were one and the same;

except at times the mental and physical

aspects were stronger and

so much sweeter than at other times.

“Believe me,” he said,

“I ‘never’ want it to be ‘just for me’!

You know I always take as much time

as you’ll let me before we do it

because I ‘always’ want you to enjoy it!”

Loving to perform oral sex,

he would do so until she’d say,

in, so he thought,

a rather disinterested tone,

“F*** me.”

And by then

—not knowing if she were wet with her fluid

or his saliva—

his head of steam near bursting,

he would enter her.

“You name it!”

He went on.

 “I’ll do ‘anything’ for you to enjoy it!

 But whenever I ask what you’d like,

what you want me to do,

you always say,

‘I don’t want to talk about it’!

You never tell me what I can do

to make it better for you!

And when we do do it,

you never show emotion!

You never make a sound!”

“What am I supposed to do,”

she said sarcastically,

“become a ‘screamer’?”

To be continued

©April 20, 2012 / Mark M. Lichterman