Category: Parenting Publisher: Live Consciously
ISBN-10: 0615193755
Type: Non-Fiction
Pages: 264
Copyright: 20th September 2009
ISBN-13: 9780615193755
Award-winning British grief expert, Gemini Adams, gently explains how moms, dads, and grandparents can realize the gift in goodbye, by taking six simple steps to share their wisdom and affection in a legacy of love, so that surviving loved ones will suffer less, if the “worst” should ever happen.
After losing her own Mom to cancer at a young age Gemini quickly learnt that a typical inheritance doesn’t give surviving family, especially children, the ongoing loving support they really need. So, she started a survey asking: “If one of your parents died, what would you prefer: to inherit their money, or a letter saying how much they loved you?”
Over 90% expressed a wish for the loving letter.
Gemini bravely shares this candid and heartrending account of the painful insights gained from her own loss, to teach us that our real “wealth” lies not in our Financial Assets, but our Emotional Assets: the values, stories, lessons, voice, values, and affections that makes us who we are. Detailing practical ways to share these in a precious gift that will surely be treasured forever. Her positive message will soothe and inspire even those most fearful of the inevitable, to spring into action, and create a timeless memento for their loved ones. Readers will also learn how to:
Guarantee the preservation of special memories.
Limit the grief and suffering for surviving family.
Provide ongoing emotional support and guidance.
Achieve peace of mind and deeper meaning to life.
Limit stressful end-of-life situations for everyone.
More at: www.RealizetheGift.com
Gemini Adams helps families to overcome and prepare for loss. A member of the National Federation of Spiritual Healers, she was awarded the prestigious Winston Churchill Fellowship for her work.
Excerpt
Chapter 1: The Opportunity
The gods cannot help those who do not seize opportunities. — Chinese Proverb
I could not have written this book if Mom were still alive, as the insights gained from this loss would no doubt have passed me by. I would never have understood the needs that surviving family members have to continue their connection with the person they’ve lost and I’d have been incapable of appreciating the suffering that comes when someone you love so dearly dies.
Yet, this painful learning curve appears to have served a purpose, as here I am some thirteen years on, motivated to put pen to paper and write this guide to share what I’ve learned and explain how, even in this, the saddest of goodbyes, there hides a gem, a precious gift that each of us can realize. Unfortunately, most of us don’t discover this until it’s too late. We’re so afraid of the D-Word that we don’t think about preparing for the worst. We pretend that it will never happen by hiding in denial and hoping it will be okay. But it rarely is. For the family members and friends who will survive us, it is this exact failure to prepare for the “what if” that can make the situation so very much worse when “it” does eventually happen. Because, if we don’t understand the future needs of our loved ones and haven’t planned ahead for certain eventualities, then like me, they will suffer—from the immensely negative emotional and mental impact of grief. They will be left feeling confused, lonely, unloved and unsupported. I’m sure this is something you would never want to happen. That’s why I’m going to help you prepare Your Legacy of Love, so you can offer support to your family and friends from afar, making sure that everyone is better equipped to cope when “it”—their greatest loss—comes knocking at your door. I know it’s an unpleasant thought. But just for a moment, imagine that “it” really has happened. You’ve departed this world and crossed to the other side. Think about the impact on your surviving family:
How will they know you truly loved them?
Who will share their history with them?
Who will support them in their time of need?
Who will comfort and care for them?
How will their memories of you stay strong?
Who will help them make good life choices?
Who will motivate them when things get tough?
Professional Reviews
Russell Friedman, Co-founder The Grief Recovery Institute
:The message of this wonderful book is loud and clear. Don t wait! Make sure you leave your children of all ages the legacy of clear, loving communication from you."
Dr. Gloria Horsley, Ph.D., Compassionate Friends
"I'd never realized that it could be fun, exciting even, to consider what to leave my family after I die. Clever, timely and important, this book will enrich the heart and home of everyone who has lost or loved."
Dee Ann Ray, Clinton Daily News
"A valuable resource for any caring person. . ."
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