Category: Family Publisher: Delbert Harvey
ISBN-10: 0578013231
Type: Non-Fiction
Pages: 130
Copyright: March 25, 2009
ISBN-13: 9780578013237
Its a guide of things that you go through during and after foster care and adoption
It's All About Choice is about the ‘little people’ in America who are sentenced to the foster care system.
These ‘little people’, 127,000 of them, are destined to bounce from house to house, never finding a home.
Loneliness, pain, and depression plague them every step of the way. Their plight seems to be taking them
to nowhere.
Some people call these little wards of the courts kids. We, too, will call them kids later in the story, but for
now we want you to know they are ‘little people’. They missed that happiness train to childhood. Their
innocence was betrayed. Their trust was violated. Their safety was forfeited.
Many woke up to the wickedness, sickness, and horrible maladies in the cradle. So, yes, they are wise and
educated and well versed in ways that you and I may never comprehend.
We are going to minutely touch on the atrocities here. Later we will also share the grim public opinion the ’
little people’ must face as they continue to strive to be ’normal.’
State workers are rarely surprised by the abuses ‘little people’ suffer because rape, physical beatings or
torture, neglect, and starvation are not uncommon. As we share our adopted kid’s stories with you, you
will know they suffered some or all of the above violations.
When the ‘little people’ are placed in foster homes or are adopted, the baggage goes with them. Some have
violent episodes, including screaming, acting out, cursing, and even personal attack.
We are going to share some of these incidences with you; however, we won’t linger on these topics long
because our focus is the amazing resiliency and renewal many of these ‘little people’ discover as they grow
older. Once they know, understand, and utilize the power of CHOICE, they are on the way to recovery.
Our final wish is to secure more homes for the foster children in America. There were 17,438 foreign
adoptions in the United States in 2008 according to USA Today. Foreign adoption is noble. However,
those who adopt at home are not only saving a child, but they are also helping make our nation stronger!
Seventeen thousand five hundred adoptions in this country would only leave a little over 109,000 homes
needed!
Excerpt
Her eyes were red and bloodshot; her shrill screams, profanities and vularities were unceasing; and her fight gained momentum as the adrenalin surged into her system.
Kicking and clawing were her tools for revenge - revenge upon her bilogical roots, the system, relatives or anyone else who knew about the abuse and did nothing, her foster parents, and most of the entire world!
It didn't matter at this point. Everyone was a foe. No one could be trusted. Violation after violation had taken its toll.
Our only hope to subdue her with dignity was to apply the hold. I slipped my arm under her knees and pulled them up by her head. I clamped into a vice stronghold.
"It's okay," we whispered. "Scream it out. Yell your obscenities. You have every right. We have you tight in our arms. When you tire, when you exhaust yourself, we will talk. So scream, baby, scream. Get it out. Get it all out!" . . .
Part of this message was audible, coaxing our new foster child to max-out and reach her melting point. Part of this message was in my head as I concentrated on holding her for her own protection. Time seemed forever as the tirade continued. . . .
Finally, our child began to pant for breath between the screams . . .
Sometimes the pants were a sure sign the episode would end soon. Sometimes the pants were like a woman's false labor pains. They only announced the coming of the real thing. . .
We held fast until our child's body became limp and the soft sobbing and hiccupping were for real.
Then we talked. First we talked in the hold, continuing to protect and sooth and support. We slowly loosened our grip as her first inaudible venting became language we could understand. Now the real work began.
A wicked Cajun Fairy named Robes Pierre entered the impenetrable Magical doll land of Sha Bebe. Queen Faustina, the ruler of the doll land, thought she had destroyed him, but he's back! Will the doll land survive his evil ways?