Category: Women Publisher: MBS Editing House
Pages: 289
Copyright: march 2005
ISBN-13: 9780973637021
Book guiding women to heal their PMS from understanding what their subconscious is trying to send as a message through their menstrual symptoms or premenstrual syndrome.
Following the autho's own healing of her unusual PMS for a while in her life, she invited women plagued with menstrual sufferings, physical, emotional and psychological, to comprehend what their subconscious was attempting to reveal through their suffering.
A simple introspection exercise is helping women finally put an end to the useless suffering, without a pill but simply to make inner connections.
Excerpt
What I do not heal I keep on reproducing
How many people do you know who have been abused and in turn, once become adult, abuse others? This is the gist of my title.
I want you to understand that the purpose of this book is not to put your mother father or anyone else in authority who created a horror story of your past on trial. My goal not to condemn your parents. They probably also had to suffer largely, or even worse, and reproduced what they knew, therefore keeping on reproducing their own suffering and pain.
This is where therapy becomes so wonderful in helping you to finally eradicate own reproduction of unhealthy behaviors, and to re-educate yourself in much better empowering noble attitudes and beliefs that will help you to finally heal.
Eric Berne, (psychiatrist and founder of Transactional Analysis) and his disciples, since his death, have helped and contributed to Transactional Analysis, talk about the decision Therapy. I often tell my clients that therapy is first and foremost an awakening reconciliation with our Self. From there comes the re-decision of what is good for me first all. This process will nurture and contribute to an increased and more advanced collective
conscience. My first mission is to work toward my ideal without infringing on the rights others, and this, for the good of the community.
In Awaken the Giant Within, Anthony Robbins illustrates with images and metaphors
the manner in which human beings organize themselves and deploy a tremendous amount energy to avoid pain rather than gain pleasure. How true!
I will add that a person reacts much more to get away from what they believe will the pain rather than to approach pleasure. I have had many occasions to observe the effect this belief in my life and in the lives of my clients.
What happens is what I believewill happen, even if I am not aware of it.
How many times have you been astonished to discover that people whom you thought
were happy and had everything have ended up living their whole lives trying to please others?
“My father wanted me to become a doctor. My mother prayed so hard so that I become a priest. My mother forced me to marry a professional. I was the genius of the family, had to get a PhD.”
Just like we are programmed to seek certain pleasures, we are also programmed to certain discomforts and displeasures, even sufferings. All this is engineered and directed ignorance of our sleepy consciousness. Because past traumas are still painful to look at, we much more prone to avoid becoming conscious and remain profoundly influenced unconsciously) as to how we live our lives. I have chosen to believe that I have the mission wake up. What will you choose to believe? This is the question of your life.
Professional Reviews
Banishing PMS: Pauline Houle’s “My Beauty & My Beast”
Cramps. Irritability. Not wanting to be touched. These are among the 150 symptoms of Premenstrual Syndrome, which affects nearly 2 out of every 5 women. 10% of women have such severe symptoms that it adversely impacts their daily lives.
Medical science has made some progress toward alleviating these symptoms, but an important component in PMS treatment has been overlooked. That’s according to Pauline Houle, author of “My Beauty and My Beast: Mind, Body, and PMS”.
“When I was in my late thirties,” Houle explained, “I had severe PMS, I’d never had this before.” Dissatisfied with the cursory attention given to the condition by her doctor, “I decided to search on my own.”
“I firmly believe that if you search, you will find.” Houle, a social worker and psychotherapist, examined PMS in the context of her profession.
“It is extremely rare that PMS derives solely from a physical, mechanical reason,” she explained. “There is almost always an emotional component. Every thought has a biochemical reaction.”
Recognizing and dealing with the thoughts underlying those biochemical reactions is at the core of Houle’s approach to PMS.
“You have to look at all the suffering you go through, and then take a look at all the pleasures.”
Pleasures? With PMS? Houle says yes.
“Women have a tendency to use PMS as a means to allow themselves those things they don’t allow themselves at other times of the month. After all, what’s a headache for?”
PMS symptoms grant women a freedom to do things they don’t otherwise do – take a nap in the middle of the day, miss a day from work, forgo an unpleasant social obligation.
“When there is an accountability,” Houle continued, “When women take ownership of those needs, without guilt, in a comprehensive manner, the symptoms disappear.”
She relays this in “My Beauty and My Beast” through several case studies. Josette is 28 year old woman who’d had a total absence of menstrual cycles for a year and a half. She is joined by Carmen, whose irregular periods were tied directly to her self-image of a feminine woman, and Elyzabeth, with dramatic symptoms tied to a potential deadly relationship. Houle uses these stories to illustrate the wide variety of reasons women may develop PMS.
“It all comes down to limiting beliefs,” she said. “Many women do not even realize that they have these beliefs, but they have a direct affect on your body.” Limiting beliefs are often learned during a woman’s early life, based upon her family dynamics. In one case study, Francoise recounts a childhood where she was seldom touched – a situation that later manifested as a complete inability to tolerate physical contact during her PMS.
“You have to understand the old brain and the new brain,” Houle continued. “The old brain, the reptilian brain, that is for our survival. It is the part of us that motivates us to eat, sleep, make love.” The new brain contains all that we’ve learned since birth. Designed to help us adapt, it is still very much influenced by the old brain’s survival drive. “That is why people will sometimes stay in a bad situation – because it is comfortable. Change – which is thought about by the new brain – can be scary.” The old brain worries that any change – in relationship, job, or living situation – might threaten survival. “But you can learn to overcome the old brain’s patterns,” Houle said. “Then you can witness the old brain being afraid for nothing.”
“My Beauty and My Beast” contains several tools designed to teach women the art of asking empowering questions, and what to do with the answer to those questions. Houle is developing a workbook to accompany the 300 page text, and is confident that with these tools, “Every woman can heal herself.”
* * * * * * * *
