Introduction

This book is essentially different than the many books which have been written by the so-called “experts” on the subject of child rearing. Most experts tend to devise and then expound on their own theories, and present parents with specific untested rules to follow.
A “theory” according to what the dictionary says, is: “A plan or theme existing in the mind only, a speculative or conjectural view of something”; also, “Abstract knowledge of any art as opposed to the practice of it”.
Another listed explanation is, “A closely reasoned set of propositions, derived from and supported by established evidence and intended to serve as an explanation for a group of phenomena: the quantum theory”.
Children, although some could be defined as “abstract characters”, are certainly not the same and cannot be grouped into one category. Even in the same family, there are many differences in personality. Some of these differences are readily seen, while some are much more subtle, and can only be identified by the parents.

Responsible Teens is not based on a theory, which existed only in the mind, but instead, it is based on years of actual, hands-on experience. The experience that only an actual parent can obtain. This experience was derived over nearly 50 years, from actual practice with real children. Experience from birth, through the marriage of the children, and then with grandchildren. Along with the hands-on experience has been very close interaction with hundreds of other parents and their children.

            This book does not consist of set rules to follow, but rather involves the very “basics” of human interaction. Most of this, I’m sure you are already aware of. Some of this information might help you to look at things a little differently.

One thing is sure: children are little human beings and we need to be aware of how even seemingly insignificant words or actions can affect them, both now and in the future. Childhood is the time when the foundation of life is built. The foundation of a building determines the stability and quality of the structure above it. In the same way, childhood determines the basis of a persons life, for good or bad. Some detrimental experiences can be overcome and compensated for, with love and care. Unfortunately, the prisons are full of people whose lives were built on the wrong foundations, with no corrective measures, and most of all, without love. Although I do believe in a Supreme Being, or God, I have not included any religious instruction in this book. That is for people to decide for themselves. I’m sure that you will find however, that everything discussed herein, bears no conflict with any religion. It is merely a collection of common sense, basic human concepts, which are too often overlooked in these days of seemingly increased turmoil within the family unit and especially, in the teen population. Too often our children are raised by the electronic influences rather than human care and love.

Regardless of the situation you find yourself in, whether you are married, divorced, single, a step-parent or adoptive parent, and regardless of whether you are rich or poor, it is still possible to be a responsible parent and help your children to grow into responsible teens. These teens then, will have the chance to become the responsible adults they should be.