You may not choose your family but you can choose what is best for you!
Loving You
When family is involved in your life, whether it be your blood relatives or those by marriage, you want to do everything you can to keep peace and maintain respect. But what about when your peace is violated repeatedly and you are given no respect? Sometimes it's just time to let go, break off communications, shake off the weight they have tried to lay on your shoulders. It may be a weight of unjust guilt or false responsibility. You will know when it's something they invented and you don't own. If being around them makes you miserable, just the thought of them causes you unrest. If you are constantly caught in the crossfire from situations and family wars you did not start and have no desire to fight in, then it's time to let go. Love yourself enough to avoid those who hurt you and belittle you and begin to build friendships and relationships outside the family you no longer want to be a part of. There came a time in my life that my health and sanity were in jeopardy if I continued to try to have a relationship with family. I was at the end of what I could take and decided I really didn't have to take anymore, so I didn't. Years of trying to deal peacefully with abuse and just pure craziness had finally brought me to a place of rage and total inability to endure it any longer. It was like a breath of Spring on a sunny day when I said, enough is enough and decided I could not and would not take anymore. It felt like a little bird set free from a prison. I refused to continue to bend until I nearly broke. I've even looked around my house and decided that any object in it that gives me a bad feeling instead of a good one is going in the trash. Why keep people and things around you that only bring negativity. If you find yourself in such a situation, being robbed of your peace and health, I can't tell you what to do for you have to arrive at that place of decision for yourself. I can tell you that if your family is destroying you, you may find the only solution is to leave them alone, get away, stop contact. Maybe it's time to stop trying to win the love and respect of those who will never give them to you and just simply allow yourself to love YOU enough to spare yourself from such frustration and grief. It worked for me and my long prison term has ended. This article may be of help.
http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/signs-time-cut-toxic-family-ties/story?id=27278012 Click here to post or read comments.
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