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Keeping RELATIONSHIPS Healthy and Happy
by Dr. Joe K. Reed   
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Last edited: Saturday, April 02, 2011
Posted: Monday, February 28, 2011

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Promoting Happiness in a Relationship. What to do and what not to do. Understanding Basic Psychological Needs between men and women, because they are different.





Study the Image. Pretend that one rectangle represents you – everything you are, your total being. The other rectangle is your Significant Other. Where the rectangles overlap represent what you have in common. Your similar interests, traits, personalities, likes and dislikes, etc. You should have numerous things in common in order to establish a relationship in the first place.

The ends sticking out represent your Differences, which can be a potential threat to the relationship. These are little things that "bug you." The best approach is to Respect your Differences and let them be OK. If you don't give your significant other permission to be different, then you have problems. If you can't allow unlikeness to be OK, then you must discuss and work it out. You might even make a deal and say, ”I'll quit doing this if you quit doing that.”

Be aware that Male and Female Brains are wired differently. Women are more in touch with their environment. For example, the average woman can't leave home without making up the bed, whereas men could care less. We both use our right and left brain, but women start thinking with their Emotional Mind first, then switch to Logical thinking. Men do exactly the opposite.

Here is an example concerning a Preacher. His upset wife Frantically calls from the airport, “Honey I missed my plane, I missed my plane, what am I going to do?” The preacher says, “Ok, just go to the ticket counter and check the next flight.” “But you don't understand,” his wife repeated, “I missed my plane”. The savvy preacher pauses and thinks to himself, “I am not addressing her emotional needs first.” Then he said, “Honey, I'm real sorry you missed your plane. That is just terrible. Now go to the ticket counter...”. When the preacher acknowledged his wife's emotions first, then switched to logical instruction, everything was fine.

Men, when your lady is distressed, she probably has Emotional Needs that must be acknowledged. Usually listening, understanding, and comforting is what she needs. And God knows, most men can improve on their “Understandability.” Right ladies?

Men and Women have Different Relationship Needs. The number one relationship need for women is to be LOVED. They have to be told they are loved on a daily basis. Women also need to be Shown they are loved too. So men, if you are not doing this, you had better start. Get off your macho high-horse and simply say, “I love you”. Men, I guarantee if your lady is not happy, you won't be either. 

Men have different Love Requirements. Simply knowing they are loved at home is enough and don't have to be told. So, what is a man's number one Relationship Need? They need to be RIGHT. To satisfy this requirement a woman has to tell her man he is so smart, so good, and Right about everything. “Making your Man Wrong,” is absolutely the worst thing ladies can do.

In order for a relationship to remain healthy and happy, it must not get Boring. Boredom kills relationships real fast. Couples must constantly do things that keep the relationship exciting, active, and alive. Spontaneous things make it fun. Here is where your Common Interests come in handy. What do you enjoy doing together? What makes him happy? What makes her happy? You already know this so do it. 

Message for men - What is one thing all women will never get tired of in a million years? Know what that is? Romance! Romancing your lady on a regular basis will pay huge benefits for you. Candlelight dinner, romantic music, and a bottle of wine never goes out of style. Can you remember the last time you did that? 

Let me tell you what a friend of mine does. Every day from work he phones his wife just to say, "I love you." He is one smart husband.  

Be Aware why Marriages Fail. The number one reason for divorce is Breakdown in Communication. Couples absolutely must talk to each other and discuss things. Usually, when communication is lost, so goes the marriage. The second reason for divorce is related to Financial Problems.

Religious Couples have big advantages. They can seek advice and counseling from their minister if needed. They can also Bond by reading the Bible together. And last but not least, “Couples who Pray Together, Stay Together.”

Hope you find this helpful.

God Bless,

Dr. Joe K. Reed















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Reviewed by Dr. Joe Reed 3/20/2011
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