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  Pessimists vs. optimists
  
  
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  Status quo vs. change
  
  
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  Darkness vs. light
  
  
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  Control vs. acceptance
  
  
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  Right vs. wrong
  
  
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  Wellness vs. sickness

     Our either-or minds pick one side over the other and then proclaim the other as the “evil enemy of dark forces to be defeated by the army of lightness.”

     Here are three good examples of the senseless, lose-all dualistic games presently going on that we all freely participate in:

1.       In the U.S., Republicans fear that the Democrats will impose total equality on the country and nullify all freedoms and incentives to make undesirable mediocrity, in the misguided attempt to unite the country into their private version of utopia. On the other hand, the Democrats fear that the Republicans will impose freedom on the country and create more unfairness, inequality and separation and exploit it, in a misguided attempt to improve the overall quality of life for everyone so we can all enjoy the republican utopia equally.  Notice that both motives are driven by insecurity and fear.

2.       In the world, deadly religious and political dogmas of “we’re right and good and you are wrong and evil” are squaring off for a lose-all war. Again, fear and insecurity-driven.

3.       Individually, we have those pessimistic, fundamentalist dooms-dayers bent on an unhappy outcome for everyone but themselves, lining up against the optimistic inclusionary spiritualists committed to a more universal, positive happy ending. Oddly both groups exclude each other out of fear and insecurity of being wrong themselves.

If we have an individual mission in life we also have a world mission. Our individual and collective mission is to reconcile opposites and transcend the very dualism that traps us all from seeing clearer and being better. We were born to heal our souls and the obvious treatment is the mother idea in all us—Know thy enemy.

You can do this by the A-B-C method:

 A. First seeing both the good and bad in your own individual values and behaviors—especially the pervasive fear and insecurity drive to control things to conform to your “side.”

B. Then committing to a mature, creative compromise by sorting out the good sense from the nonsense, and admitting being both a little right and a little wrong.

C. Finally having more thoughts, beliefs, words and behaviors that allow for a happy  ending for everyone instead of just yourself.

     How does this all happen? 

·        Healing yourself by remembering: Who you are, what you are doing, and where you are going—in essence your unique contribution to the creator’s plan for all of life.

·        Seeing how your own ideas, beliefs, expectations and words effect the quality of your life as well as others, i.e. the power of the butterfly effect.   

·        Learning how opposite appearing things—Yang and Yin—are really just different sides of the same coin or a part of a process that hasn’t come yet in a bigger time perspective (eternity?) than you currently are part of.   

·        Not assuming the absolute correctness of your side with so much certainty, seriousness, rigidity and intensity; being a little more open-minded.

·        Fine tuning your empathy skills in becoming more sensitive to intuitive moments of coincidental opportunity and taking advantage of them.

·        Validating the truth of your beliefs and position by discovering whether you are enabling others through genuine love and acceptance or disabling them through fear, insecurity and control.