Directions: See how grown-up your love is by taking the following test. Read each statement and then tell how often it is true for you in your present relationship. Do this by circling the appropriate numbers at the right, according to the following key. Then total your score and check it against the Interpretation Key at the bottom.
Key
1 = Never
2 = Rarely
3 = Sometimes
4 = Often
5 = Always
1. I trust my partner completely.
1 2 3 4 5
2. We are both getting much more together in this relationship than either of us could get alone.
1 2 3 4 5
3. My partner’s happiness gives me great joy.
1 2 3 4 5
4. I am proud of my partner’s depth of character.
1 2 3 4 5
5. My partner and I communicate without words.
1 2 3 4 5
6. We have many common interests.
1 2 3 4 5
7. I am spiritually connected with my partner.
1 2 3 4 5
8. We are compatible in important values.
1 2 3 4 5
9. Sex is a satisfying experience with my partner.
1 2 3 4 5
10. There is a sense that my partner and I were meant to be together.
1 2 3 4 5
11. There is much give and take in the relationship but nobody keeps score.
1 2 3 4 5
12. The relationship brings out the best in both of us.
1 2 3 4 5
13. We hold hands in public.
1 2 3 4 5
14. Good communication is the foundation of our relationship.
1 2 3 4 5
15. My partner is my best friend.
1 2 3 4 5
16. We control our anger when we disagree.
1 2 3 4 5
17. We both feel free to express our expectations openly.
1 2 3 4 5
18. I can’t imagine growing old with any other person.
1 2 3 4 5
19. Other people comment on our loving relationship.
1 2 3 4 5
20. My partner completely understands and accepts me.
1 2 3 4 5
Interpretation Key
20-30 = Sorry, you may be involved in pre-puppy love.
31-50 = Just an infatuation.
51-70 = You are learning some things, keep trying.
71-80 = You are well on your way to loving grown-up style.
81-100 = Congratulations! You have a very grown-up love.
Bill Cottringer is author of You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It To, a self-help book that guides readers toward more successful relationships through better thinking, more likability and right behavior. He can be reached at ckurtdoc.charter.net
