Some good advice about handling our anger. I still don't know what “VTI” is, except some initials for some psychiatry syndrome (will have to do a quick lookup).



It's funny that you would present this while I am struggling with two helpers who expressed anger. The first is my loving other half who is and will do everything for me, but is so stressed, overworked, and sleepless that she sometimes lashes out over nothing. Did I say she was in menopause? Five minutes later, she is back apologizing and making up for everything she was angry about. I believe it helps her relieve the stress she has.



The second helper is more difficult. She reacts in anger over almost any comment I make, particularly over news items. She blames “Caucasians” for everything and claims she knows more about everything than I. I have learned not to challenge her on the verocity of her claims, because it only makes her angrier. So I let her go on and on until she runs out of angry things to say. I am very good at absorbing all this anger because it doesn't affect me at all.



I sense that she has very low self-esteem caused by being abused and having to go to work at low-level jobs when she was seventeen. My work is one of those low-level jobs that she does quite well in spite of her anger. I believe, that with time, her anger toward me for representing Caucasian thought will go away and she will find me to be an inspiration like so many others have already.



There seems to be a lot of angry people in this world and it does us no good to isolate them or punish them until we know what really made them angry in the first place. Like I said, I found that angry tirades towards me are more easily absorbed than aggressively attacked.



Cheers!



Ron

And I thought by your title that this was going to be about Matlack!!