There is a concept in psychology called 'reframing', and I have found it to be very useful in overcoming difficult or painful past experiences. Essentially, it is the process of re-telling the story of the event in a way that gives it meaning rather than just pain.
For example, if you witnessed a painful event such as 911, you can 're-frame' the pain you experienced and point out the positive effects of this trauma. You may say '911 was a blessing because it brought me closer to my family and helped me appreciate life in fuller way. I also became a more compassionate and patient person." This is not minimizing the horror of the event, but it does make it seem more meaningful.
Reframing acts directly on the storytelling part of the brain. It re-directs the mind to focus away from trauma (which it tends to obsess over) and onto the more positive aspects of life. Anybody can use the technique...and one of the best ways is through writing. Simply recall and event that was very painful, then write for 10-15 minutes on the blessings and benefits of that event in your life. If you do this 3-5 times over a few weeks, you will begin to feel the pain 'lighten' and become more bearable.
This technique has been used on first responders to 911 and to victims of abuse...to great effect. Try it!
“Dr. Sergey Sorin’s Daily Message” - The Transitional Thoughts for the day by Dr. Sergey Sorin are with collaboration from KC. Hildreth, an Industry Consultant.
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