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Reviewed by srilakshmi

Reviewed on December 18, 2002

I have two sisters and all three of us had arranged marraiges.Well they worked for us.Good thing is our dad had lot of selfrespect and did not distribute our photos or did we have any meeting arranged with our wouldbes, we did talk to each other after our official engagement ceremony. We all had One priority and that is no dowry.We are well educated and I told myself if I can buy my husband with dowry then he will be like another object I purchased in shop and objects loose attraction after some time and how can love someone who do not have selfrespect and is not confident in himself of hardwork and his abilities to be successfull on own. I pity all those people who depend on fatherinlaws or parents for support.For that reason I do appreciate the US system of being independent from young age. In the end i do believe in arranged marraiges as long as parents and the girls dont loose their selfrespect in the process and bow to the wishes of bridegroom.
we should all condemn dowry system and better educate our community.

Reviewed by Navin Pathuru

Reviewed on September 4, 2002

When a child is born to a mother he/she does not know anything about her but still the child continues to live with her for the rest of the life, so is an arranged marriage. A man/woman does not know anything about the partner they will continue to live for the rest of their life. This is something i can freely talk to my mother and i can advise my daughter and grand children also. Reforms need to be done in a few ways in a few respects but i do not think every Tom, dic and harry like me can tell them. I would advise our younger generation to research in our Vedas, in our history and you will surely find a lot of meaning in our marriages. Chastity is important but Chastity not at the cost of knowledge says Swamy Vivekananda. Read about a few speeches of him yes, you will truly find a lot of peace and knowledge. We must try to make the reforms based on such great peoples/Gods ideas.

Navin Pathuru

Reviewed by jai-baba

Reviewed on July 31, 2002

JAI-BABA
Anicient customs may not be amicable to the present generation.There are plenty opportunities to the youth to select their partner.There are merits and demerits in arranged marriages and in their self selections.And the present time is not yet ripe to abondon the old system totally.

Reviewed by Uday

Reviewed on July 17, 2002

Personally I dont support arranged marriages. I wouldn't want my marriage to be arranged. But in my pragmatic
opinion, 'Arrange Marriage' is still most probable way for majority of people in India to get married. Instead of trashing the system, why cant we think of some reformation, where the major problems are addressed and fixed ?

Reviewed by harish

Reviewed on May 15, 2002

Ur points r absolutely correct. But lief is an adjustment. We may not get all teh things we want.. for ex. every day we want so many things to happen but how many things r really happening. Adjustment is better judgement. I saw many arranged marraige couples who are happy .. it's not a wonder. If u didn't get what u want.. like the thing which u got. Nobody is wrong , nobody is right.. & nobody is perfect. If arranged marraiges r a failure, just think about our parents generation.. they r so happy.. I saw many mnay couples.. Even though I don't like all these formalities which r expressed but I believe in arranged marraiges..