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Turn the Other Cheek or Not? 6/12/2013 5:46:42 PM
Like most people I know, I’ve been through some very difficult situations as a result of which we end up feeling or being hurt. In my particular case, it was a frivolous lawsuit that settled, but in the process I have gone through very intense feelings of frustration, anger, even hate; a sense of injustice and failure of the legal system. I took it very, very personally.
Long after the matter has been resolved; it continued to play in my head over and over, with each new round taking on more anger, pain and sense of frustration and helplessness. Feeling like you are a victim is not easy. In my case, in retrospect, I even took on “the fangs”, the anger, hate, and those same qualities and characteristics of the person that hurt me the most. The victim (me) became the aggressor. In the process I ended up limiting myself in many ways, becoming my own worst enemy and hurting those around me who love me.
The interesting thing is that this pain and not knowing how to deal with the situation eventually led to seek spiritual and mental help, knowledge and understanding. The end result has produced a far better human being than the one before the injury in so many ways! I actually got to the bottom of my underlying personal weakness that allowed me to internalize this event as so painful and unfair. With the new understanding and putting it into practice, things of this nature no longer hurt me, and there are many of them.
So next time someone hurts you or you feel hurt for whatever reason, ask yourself, is there something within me that I need to examine about myself and improve upon. And when you do, please don’t forget to say thanks to the one who brought the lesson(s).
