A Message From Pain


Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Pain. I have a special message for you because you have not been listening to me in the ways I have been revealing myself to you. You think of me as your enemy, avoiding me at all costs. Consider what would happen to you, if in fact, I did not exist. You appendix could rupture and if you had no pain to alert you to go to a doctor, you could in fact die. Think of all the damage you could do to yourself physically if I were not there to warn you to take positive action.

On the mental or emotional level, what could happen to you if I were not there to alert you to a situation that could cause you harm, danger, or loss. I am a messenger to alert you to take positive action. I am delivering this message because so many of you focus on the delivery system known as Pain, instead of heading my message. Have you noticed I keep showing up around every nook and corner in your life? I am telling you this so you can come to know me for who I really am – a messenger and guide. Yes, I am a treasured friend who is bringing you a message to guide you through all of your life experiences."

"When I show up in your life as physical illness, you listen to the message I bring to you. You take me to the doctor, the physical therapist, or otherwise find ways to deal with me. But, when it comes to emotional distress, you focus on the external circumstances that ignited the pain and ignore the message. Why won’t you recognize the real importance of my visits? I appear when you have had an important loss; when you need to remove yourself from a difficult situation; and when your thinking is off base."

"I am present at every loss in your life; but in wallowing in me, you miss the message I bring to guide you though a difficult situation. I am a signal that something is wrong. See me as a signal for change and you will recognize my friendship, so stay with me here and let’s see what you can discover. While you often feel me deeply and sometimes continually for long spells, don’t miss the message. Pay attention to what is going on, something is not right here. Perhaps you fear you will lose self-esteem or the possibility of a new job or a new love. Fear is the enemy here, not reality. In your lifetime, there will be legitimate losses. When you acknowledge the loss as real, grieve it, and get to acceptance, you will feel me leave you."

"Let me tell you about Rhonda and how she avoided me. Every time I got close to her consciousness, she anesthetized me with food. It wasn't long until she had a weight problem. When she looked in the mirror, she hated what she saw and what she had done to her body. She missed my message to pay attention to what she was feeling.

Rhonda did not accept her human frailties. Instead, she soothed me with food. She became so miserable that she sought professional help. In her search for relief, together with her coach, she unraveled her self-hatred. The Pain from self-hatred led her to seek comfort from food which led to a greater self-hatred.

When Rhonda was able to realize disdain for herself was the source of her pain, she was able to forgive herself and gain inner freedom. Being human was very difficult for her, so she had to work to give herself permission to be human. Unrealistic expectations of our self can cause any of us pain.