I created my own reality.
I created my own hell.
I take responsibility for what I have created.
I see contradictions clearly in the mirror of you and me.
I let myself down and I blamed you for it.
I expected you to love me unconditionally while I did not love myself unconditionally.
I was not emotionally open while I expected you to be emotionally open.
I expected nice complements from you while I did not complement myself.
I expected you to be honest while I was not honest about my own needs.
I expected you to be positive while I was not positive myself.
I did not like the reflection of me in the mirror and I tried to change the reflection (you).
I expected validation from you while I did not validate myself.
I expected your empathy for my emotions while I did not express empathy for my own emotions.
I did not feel good about myself and I expected you to feel good about me.
I expected you to be responsible for my emotions while I did not take responsibility for my own.
I expected you to love me for who I am while I did not love myself for who I am.
I wanted to be right about my beliefs while I expected you to be flexible about yours.
I was upset with your criticism while I constantly criticized myself with self-talk.
I gave my power away and I was upset that you control me.
I expected encouragement from you while I did not encourage myself.
I feared vulnerability of love so I attracted you with the same fear.
I was upset at you while in reality I was upset at myself.
I could not forgive you because I could not forgive myself.
I take responsibility for my reality
so that I can change what I have created.
Copyright .2014 by Shervin Hojat
This is an excellent tool that can be used in an evaluation of ourselves when we are prone to expect others to do for us what only we can and should do for ourselves.
Thank you for sharing,and continued success.
Barbara J. Henry
Always enjoy your perspectives on behavior.
Ron