A sociopath is a person with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), characterized by a persistent pattern of disregard for the rights of others, lack of empathy, and manipulative behavior. They often engage in deceitful and impulsive actions without feeling remorse for their harmful behaviors.
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The Trap;
For the first few years, predators are playful/cheeky/fun.....
And Highly Attentive ...... they're studying you ... covertly ; this is 'the long game'.
Once they have you trapped... {marriage, money, or both}; they become;
Picky with food ; picky with people ; picky with everything
... they love to make a fuss.
Judgemental {quietly at first} ; nothing you do is ever quite good enough ;
... 'my mother doesn't do it like that' ...suddenly it's a competition ;
They were looking for a 'surrogate' mother ...to replace the old one ;
But they only reveal this, after the trap has closed.
They brought with them, their childhood tantrums and their toys ...literally.
Constantly seeking attention, via drama/childish behaviour ... and claims that you are 'always misunderstanding' them.
Now they're argumentative ; obstinate ; un-cooperative
~ and completely and openly selfish.
Possessive and Controlling;
~ These characters DO NOT SHARE !
You may have put your focus into building a joint future;
But in their head, everything becomes 'theirs'... especially *money* and assets
...everything 'you' earn, and everything 'you' owned before you entered this thing.
They also think they own 'YOU' ...mind, body and soul.
If you stand up to them ..... you will pay dearly.
Behind closed doors; they're manipulative ; coercive ; vindictive
~ rapidly increasing to aggressive/abusive/ violent.
But if you even attempt to seek help and support
... YOU are portrayed as ' the crazy unreasonable one'.
The people around you are their 'playground' audience.
In public; they are highly skilled and convincing actors/liars
It's ALWAYS 'ALL about them'... and it's ALWAYS 'your fault'.
It's also all so extreme that, in the light of day, none of it makes any sense.
Your friends and family back off in utter confusion ; they don't know what to believe anymore; it's too much drama for them to handle.
It was designed that way
Now the predator has you completely isolated.
Until finally;
The predator has drained you of everything ; including your strength and your dignity;
They've stripped you of your energy, and all of your resources, and everything that you held dear;
They have completely decimated everything in your life; there is nothing left for them to destroy.
The Sudden Shift;
The predator finds a 'New Target' to pursue....
They create an EXPLOSIVE and DRAMATIC exit ;
ensuring *Maximum Attention* and *Maximun Sympathy*;
They must...
A} convince everyone {including the new target} that they were the 'tragic victim' in all this;
B} justify their negligence and abandonment ... making sure 'their story' is the one that sticks .... to 'prove their point'.
But even then, they'll NEVER let you go !
In their head, they still own you
And they'll use 'whatever it takes' to keep you on that leash!
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Written after 14 years of arduous divorce proceedings; and many thousands of pounds in costs ... and still, no end in sight.
Posted to highlight what people may not see coming in their own lives; a warning, if you like.
Even the law does nothing to curb these predators;
.... especially if they have the money to keep it all going in circles.
I can tell you now; the family and the life that I had back then has never recovered ~ And nor should it.
As a loyal and hard-working wife/business-partner/mother; I deserved so much better than that.
Some day, I hope to free myself.
However, in the meantime; the leash has been cut back as severely as it had to be;
My family are now free. The predator has no more leverage through them.
Just to clarify;
Predators' behaviours are meticulously designed and deliberately planned.
They are not mentally ill; therefore, they cannot be 'cured'.
