A colleague of mine, Sylvia Hubbard surmised that there are simple rules of engagement when defining how to please and pleasure your man or woman. She intimated that, “We live everyday waking up, getting the kids together, getting to work, getting back home, taking care of the house, and then going back to bed. This is our daily routine and we stick to the routine like clockwork. We don't even think about it anymore. It's just ingrained in us to do this. So why isn't pleasure ingrained in us unless we're addicted to a drug? Why do we constantly have to make an effort to seek out ways to pleasure ourselves and to pleasure the person that we are with and suppose to care about? Why can't it be automatically be in our nature to just wake up, pleasure ourselves and our mate, get the kids together, and be in position to benefit and enjoy life more?”

Pleasure principles have different meanings to different people. I will always ask what is most definitive in how we assess and assume the position to be pleasured. Since we are all individuals, I'm sure what works for one will not be the same for another. With this said, we as individuals, especially men who ladies claim are insensitive to their desire to be held before and after the fact for total satisfaction. I constantly on a personal note has to be inventive, initiate creative notions whenever stepping out of comfort zones that are status quo and confining. Thus, I'm always striving to be that all-the-way lover with patience and panache. I want to add more spice to my rack and be all that I can be to my mate so that each time we indulge...it would elicit anticipated fervor for more! Yes, it takes time, but so does anything else we purport in allowing success to reign supreme. Albeit, there are a plethora of way where we can pleasure our mates and ourselves individually and collectively as long as a concerted effort is par for the course for balance and to measure how much we give, when, and where! I think we are stereotypically buried in confining mores where a lot of initiative is not being exercised to override boundaries and margins of (in) tolerance. In other words, let yourself go -- enjoy the aspect of pleasuring your mate. Men, be the plumbers you were destined to be...lay that pipe. Women, spread your love and allow the sugar walls to continue dripping with anticipated desire. Let's do this!