Tips on how to get your man to make you hotter than a hot flash!

Year after year, I hear my middle-aged girlfriends complain about how the spark has gone out of their relationships with the "man of their dreams."  They tell me he isn't attentive anymore or he works long hours and then comes home too tired or they even suspect there might be a little "foul play" going on with another woman--and a YOUNGER one at that.

Do you know why some older men are sexually attractive to younger women?  Because they are adventurous!  They have an experimental attitude and don't mind doing what it takes to please their partner. 

We were once like that, remember?  Well, maybe I should just speak for myself but I recall the days when I couldn't get enough pleasure from my man and he was more than willing to oblige.  Has growing older made us become prudish all of a sudden or did we not realize the man we married had an over-active sex drive?

Just because we age doesn't mean the romantic flames have to die does it?  The first thing you must ask yourself, honestly, is what did you do to kill the romance if it's gone?  If you can honestly say it's not your fault then you need to do a reality check on exactly why you chose the person you're with and if it wasn't for romance, then you shouldn't be complaining at this stage of the game.  Sadly, some of us did take a walk down the aisle for the wrong reasons like love of money or because we felt the need to be married by a certain age.

On the other hand, if you have vowed to remain faithful and loving until death do you part then you owe it to yourself and the relationship to keep the romance and magic alive.  Here are   

1)  Come up with a secret code word or a special look that only you two can identify. When you use the word or give the “look”, share a passionate kiss or other form of physical intimacy.  The word might be one that holds a special meaning for the two of you or maybe choose a word that is just plain sexy.  The challenge is to do it when you’ve had a disagreement but that's the moment that passion can ignite beyond your wildest imagination! 

2)  Turn your dinner into a romantic dining experience. They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach so why not set the mood with some romantic foods.  Did you know asparagus is a great source of potassium, fiber, vitamin B6, vitamins A and C, and thiamin and folic acid?   The latter is said to boost histamine production necessary for the ability to reach orgasm in both sexes.  Oysters are the classic aphrodisiac.  Raw oysters are very high in zinc which is known to raise sperm and testosterone production and increase libido.  Set the ambience with some fresh cut flowers and then dim the lights, light some candles, and enjoy a bottle of your favorite wine. 

3)  Get in the mood with some nice, soothing music.  Get up close and personal by dancing cheek-to-cheek with your bodies touching ever so closely? You don’t have to go out for a night on the town to do this. Put on some Luther Vandross or Barry White and let the romance begin—in the kitchen, living room or bedroom. Dancing helps to keep romance alive and it is fun and a way for couples to positively connect with one another.

4)  Try reading sexy literature to each other in bed or when you are cuddled up together on the couch. Take turns being the narrator of some erotica books and also try a little re-enactment. Role playing can be very enticing and a lot of fun!   Women, in particular, enjoy the sound of their lover's voice as he reads steamy fiction to her in a romantic setting.

I, personally, love it when my husband writes me a romantic letter because I know it came straight from his heart.  

5)  Most importantly, don't be afraid to communicate your sexual desires and try to be as open-minded as you were back then.  But don't be afraid to let him know what you don't like.  He shouldn't be offended if he wants to please you.   

Make this summer your time for fun, fantasy and fulfillment!  You may discover, just as I have, that he makes you hotter than a hot flash!