The child was not getting the personal attention and love she had been getting from her grandmother. She was actually left to her own devices.

Now a day's you and I know what a pretty pre-teen girl without supervision can get into. Some suggestions are, drugs, prostitution, rape, pregnancy, smoking, AIDS, jail, and definitely getting in with the wrong group of friends.

She was staying with her grandmother once again for a few days and her grandmother became frustrated because she could not get her granddaughter to do as she said. The granddaughter of course mouthed off and out of frustration the grandmother grabbed her granddaughter's hair and pulled.

The hair pulling was the frustration the grandmother was feeling seeing her granddaughter acting like a pre-teen, not listening, and doing her own thing. Her grandmother was only trying to protect her from the above mentioned circumstances mentioned above.

This is what leads from hair pulling, to slapping across the mouth to a full fledge beating. The frustration the grandmother was feeling was stress and real heart pain.

What happened to her beautiful granddaughter who laughed, and sang with her years ago? That cute, spunky little girl no longer exists. In her place, was this angry pre-teen who wanted her own way and expected her own way, because that is what she was used to when she was on her own.

Frustration in child rearing can lead to many things including violence for the sake of the child's own good. The grandmother and grandchild need to come to some kind of medium where they can reconnect. In this case, a psychologist would probably be a good idea, if it could be arranged by the parents.

Is there any perfect family? Families today live in such a complex, society, where time is sometimes more important than money. Sometimes love is just not enough.

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read any of my other articles on various subjects.

Linda Meckler copyright 2010