Ways in which to ensure the failure of a marriage.
30 Ways A MARRIAGE IS GUARANTEED TO FAIL
Much has been written about ways to keep your marriage strong. Usually when you read about someone’s failed marriage, you hear talk of one or a few of the things that happened that helped sentence the marriage to death. Usually at the top of the list are finances and sex or lack of it and or affairs. But long before these things usually come into play there are things being put into place that virtually ensure the marriage will eventually die. This list is to remind all of us what happens to people whom at one time loved and cared deeply for each other.
Taking each other for granted
Lack of interest in what your mate is involved in
Workaholics
In law problems
No time for each other after the children arrive
Feeling you have nothing in common with each other
Different paths as far as christian beliefs
Not eating meals together
Not sleeping together
Understanding not the effect of nice clothes and perfume
Not traveling together for unannounced trips just to get away and be alone with each other
Living only for the children whether they are small or adults
Not agreeing to disagree
Personal grooming
Taking care of your own health
Spending too much time with family and not enough time with each other
Not watching movies or keeping up with news events together
Not having similar interests
Disagreeing over finances
Not spending one complete hour per week with your mate
Being unable to discuss your own likes and dislikes involving sex
Not able to lay in each other arms and talk of individual dreams
Showing more care and concern for others outside the marriage especially towards one’s nuclear family
No kissing or touching each other
No attempts to please a mate
Not having the ability to seize the moment for a heart to heart talk
Thinking your mate is always wrong
Not having sexual intercourse
Having a feeling that your mate is the enemy
Not truly caring enough about the person you are married to in order to at least discuss any of the above items that just may be the solution
I appreciate William Cottringer suggesting three additional ways to help a marriage fail. They are:
Aubrey-- These are certaintly true. I would add three other very important things that their converse is true for 50+ years of marrigae bliss (solid research):
1. Not understanding the other person.
2. Not laughing with the other person.
3. Not attending church regularly together.
This is just "EXCELLENT" What a blessing it was to stumble across this great post. Thank you so very much for sharing this. May the good Lord continously bless you always.
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The Narcis
Mileah K Shore
1. Not understanding the other person.
2. Not laughing with the other person.
3. Not attending church regularly together.
Min. Nina Clark