The Good Wife's Guide
Housekeeping Monthly - May 13, 1955
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
Your goal: To try and make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
Miller
Ingrid
The best part of that list was the "no complaining" part. Who wants to walk into a whinefest as soon as the key turns the lock? Personally, it still seems like a fair trade for me to do the cleaning and for him to do the repairs, computer updates, and throwing out the dead oppossum in the yard. Some chics may like to replace the seal around the base of the toilet, but I'd rather wash the dishes.
No wonder I've gone through guys like sacks of garbage.
T'was me all along! well I'll be hornswaggled. Jimminey.
Thank you for this eye opening eduactional article I'll let you know how things progress now. I'll keep a copy of this in my library for refrences. Thanks bunches.
Tracey
no Sandie dear, sarcasm has Never been one of my personality traits.
Watch out for lightning to strike at any moment here.
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What a gem you have here! My mom exactly, except she worked a stressful job every day and still treated us to a hot, wonderful, meal and clean house. Dad often went out drinking and missed supper--to my mom's wrath! The only time he didn't come home, he had rolled the car (1956) and didn't get home til morning. She stayed up all night, waiting.
Ron
I guess it's another one of those wonderful "growth opportunities"!
Love & Light,
Joseph