A Wish for Natalie, Our Shining Star (poem) by C. G. McGovern-Bowen on AuthorsDen

Reviewed on April 23, 2007

Dear Carolyn,

What a loss. Natalie's beauty shines through your words, your memories. I send you love and prayers.

~Sharon

Reviewed by Leslie Wright (Reader)

Reviewed on April 17, 2007

You do not know me Carolyn, but I was a classmate of Natalie's. This past summer I was in a feminist psychotherapy class with her. I was always impressed with her poise, maturity, and intelligence. She was so beautiful and kind, as well. She seemed to be so pensive~ still waters run deep. I can honestly say that she made an impression on the 6 people in that little class. I know I will remember her always.

Reviewed by William Bonilla

Reviewed on April 15, 2007

Peace be with you Carolyn
And may my prayers comfort you
My sympathy To you and family

Love & Peace
William

Reviewed by Arianna Reyes (Reader)

Reviewed on April 12, 2007

Natalie was known to me as Professor Mcgovern, as I was one of her students at AIU. I feel every word as you do! I feel I had no chance to say Good-Bye and just that hurts. The whole class is in disbelief and sorrow. If there was just something we could have done or do to have have changed the pass? She was full of life and a motivational speaker. Always letting us know we could achieve anything we wanted to. I will always remember her words and knowledge. She inspired me to be a better person and women. I find myself in lost of words as a rain of tears come down my face. Always know that her life will still live within the people she had contact with, and that we all have taken a piece of her.
I wish your family lots of peace and Love...God Bless

Reviewed by Butch Howard (Reader)

Reviewed on April 12, 2007

I cannot begin to imagine the pain and anguish the death of this young lady has caused you and your family. I am glad you decided to share this letter with us. I think it helps to say what is on your heart, even though I know the pain of losing her will never go away. Don Henley wrote a song about a woman who ended her own life due to post partum depression and conveys as your beautiful letter does, the heartbreak, frustration and anger he was feeling. These lines are particularly moving to me and I want to share them with you:
"Maybe just a good nights sleep
Would have changed your troubled mind
From that rather permanent decision
So tragic, so unkind....
And the seasons keep on changing
And the wind blows hot and cold
Wish that you were here with us to watch this tide
As it ebbs and flows
Damn it, rose."
May God comfort you and your family today and every day and give you strength and peace.
~Butch

Reviewed by Regis Auffray

Reviewed on April 11, 2007

This hits very close to home, Carolyn. Please accept my sincere and deepest sympathy. Love, peace, and strength to you,

Regis

Reviewed by Jorge Padilla (Reader)

Reviewed on April 9, 2007

Natalie McGovern was my Psychology professor. Ms. McGovern was and will continue to be a very inspirational and motivational remeberance. She always quoted:

"The greatest achievement was at first and for a time, just a dream."
-James Allen

Thank you Ms. McGovern, I will continue with my path to achieve my dreams.

Reviewed by Brett Moore

Reviewed on April 4, 2007

I think your letter is beautifully written and lucid, which is hard to do in a time of great pain. I have lost a loved one to suicide. The range of emotions are just like you said, "anguish, regret, disbelief, anger". It sure helps to have others around to go through it with. You'll be in my thoughts.

Brett

Reviewed by Kate Burnside

Reviewed on April 4, 2007

I am speechless, Carolyn. And I am in awe of your deeply-felt words wrought from the crucible of pain and confusion, yet with conviction and with deepest respect for the personal choices and personhood of your dearest Natalie. Death of a young one is hard and something we all hope we never have to experience within our midst... even more so when taken by their own hand. All I can say is that it seems to be the case that all other families who are stricken by this event seem to share this common lack of knowledge or true understanding. I pray for you all in your suffering and most of all that you don't seek to look for answers to the unanswerable questions within yourselves or your actions. I know that some of the most brilliant young minds are just plain wracked with a complete sense of futility when they measure and reason the logic of life as we now know it. Happily, most of us can reconcile ourselves to the muddle, but some just can't. May you each and everyone of you find peace... and especially Natalie. Bless you and thank you for this amazing personal write. We are privileged to share with you in this. Love, Kate xx

Reviewed by jude forese

Reviewed on April 3, 2007

such sorrow and grief ... those who suffer the most are the ones who must deal with the aftermath of this extreme action ... i sorrow for you and your family ... hopefully when she returns she will have learned from it and will move on and find peace ...

Reviewed by Carmen Ruggero

Reviewed on April 3, 2007

Suicide brings much sorrow to those close to the person. My heart goes to you and your family. But I must tell you, this very touching offering comes forth from a very courageous spirit. It is filled with love and gratitude for her life. Yet, I know it hurts. I'll hold you, and family, in my prayers.

Carmen

Reviewed by Karen Palumbo

Reviewed on April 3, 2007

So sorry to hear this, very sad and painful time for all of you. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Be safe,
Karen

Reviewed by Tinka Boukes

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

Oh Carolyn, my deepest condolences and prayers to you and your family!!

So sorry for your loss and what pain you are going through right now!!

Love Tinka

Reviewed by Dawn Richerson

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

many prayers, Carolyn. I'm not sure I have as many words. the words you have shared serve only to lift up and make way for peace. love, Dawn

Reviewed by Uriah Fields

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

Is it less honorable to die by suicide than by any one of many other "cides" by which a person exits mortality? When death is caused by a sudden self-inflicted act or acts we call that suicide. But are not prolonged self-inflicted acts that cause death suicide? particularly acts that are self-destructive. How great then is the number of people who choose to exit mortality by suicide? These questions are asked each person because each person has the only answers that are relevant. Ultimately, the question is: "Was it t a good death?" Again, it just maybe, that only the individual can answer that question about his/her own death. It seems that sometimes the good die young.
Carolyn, I extend my love to you and those you love---who loved and continue to love Natalie. For love knows no limits. It is eternal.

Reviewed by E T Waldron

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

Such a sad time for you all! I pray you will find peace as you go through this trial. I think some people feel more deeply pressured too succeed than they should, and it causes fear that can lead to what your dear niece did, Carolyn. You have my deepest condolences and prayers, suicide is very hard to understand for those left behind. You reached out with beautiful koving thoughts to her,thank you for sharing.

Love,
Eileen

Reviewed by Karen Lynn Vidra, The Texas Tornado

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

Heartbreaking; you are in my prayers, Carolyn! God be with your family during this sad time!

(((HUGS))) and much love, your friend in Tx., Karen Lynn. :( >tears! <

Reviewed by Sage Sweetwater

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

It's not fair, this loss...peace be with you and your family, Carolyn...Blessed Be.

Sage

Reviewed by Mr. Ed

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

So very sorry to hear this heartbreaking news, Carolyn, and our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire clan.

Reviewed by Georg Mateos

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

They said that if you deeply loved someone you don't need to mourn because they never die, they continue on living in your heart.
But the pain is there, thriving in the raw wound.
Kind words are prescribed.
Georg

Reviewed by Karla Dorman, The StormSpinner

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

(((HUGS))) and prayers--I'm sorry for your loss. :(

Love, Karla.

Reviewed by Susan Sonnen

Reviewed on April 2, 2007

I am so very sorry. I pray for your comfort and the comfort of all who loved her.