I can relate to this because as soon as I was able to leave my mother's table, I did. And, I accepted all responsibility for the care of my household. First, my many apartments while going to school, sometimes shared with others who did not want to do any household tasks and sometimes shared with others who wanted to do them all--wonderful. And then, with my three homes that I've owned where I did all the housework and cooked every meal largely because I am either cheap or frugal. ;-)

However, my approach was much different from yours. I cooked very simply from raw ingredients for each meal and didn't lean on precooked or processed foods except in times of expediency which were rare. I didn't spend time baking cakes or cookies like my mother did, but only the essentials providing calories, protein and nutrition and avoided all the sugar, salt and other ingredients in the process. To me, gourmet cooking was a waste of time because I need to spend my time on my career work and not lollygagging alone in the kitchen.

The result was that now in my 70s I am in excellent health in spite of my lifelong paralysis. Any man or woman who says they can't keep up with their house is lying (lazy?). They are just relying on others to do for them. Even now, while I have to rely on others to cook, clean and even take care of my basic needs, I still manage all the financial part of my household so that I can continue to be independent as much as possible of relying on others like they are my slaves, just because I am too selfish to pull my own weight. Shame on those who do.

Ron