The User is usually characterized by what woman calls a no good bum. They work their way into a woman’s life on the sly. He gives her the impression he needs her putting in her the desire to help a down and out brother until he gets on his feet.
It is not to say that the User is a person unemployed, he may be a man of substantial means but one who is always trying to utilize another person and he calls a woman who gives into his tricks as a ‘weak woman.’
There is that old proverbial saying, “If you find a fool, you bump his head.” This is what the User will do for the unsuspecting woman. He will use her up and when finished will discard her like a broken tool.
The User looks for no specific qualities that he desires except one who is weak to fall prey to being used. She must be the type after sufficient time to give into his desires and whims. He wants to utilize her for her money, contacts, transportation, and a place to crash.
Most men who use women will have a certain amount of cash to ask for. He will usually seek her when he knows she have some money especially on payday letting her know he is short on funds to pay a certain bill and could she help him out until he comes into contact with the person who owes him money. He pleads and swears he is going to pay just as soon as it is in his hands. The look and sound of sincerity melts the softhearted woman and she gives in only to be burnt when he does not deliver on his promise. He gives all kinds of excuses why he did not get his money blaming it on his buddy who did not deliver his end of paying him.
If the woman has subsidy, food stamps or FIA assistance, he knows the time and date when the check will arrive in the mail and usually want to stay at her place overnight being good, kind and loving seeking to gain in depth feelings in her heart. He even will want to perform sexual activity that has been forsaken until tonight and performs quiet well.
As soon as the mailman runs, he is there to assist her with getting the check cashed and other functions all the while with his eyes on his share of the cut. If she waits too long, he will begin to insist they take care of business before a line forms at the bank or corner store that cashes checks urging her to speed it up. He will even help with dressing the kids if they are present to get on the woman’s good side softening her not to say no when he asks for a certain amount of change.
As soon as he gets what he wants, he leaves making excuses he had to run an errand and he will be back in a minute. He is not seen until his money runs out and here he comes again begging that he needs this and that heading for the refrigerator bellowing that he is hungry.
The User most times are characterized by being unemployed who hangs around with his buddies spending the day either outside shooting the bull, drinking or riding around looking for whores. They are never serious thinking everything is a joke, making fun of the person who does work. The interesting thing he likes is a woman who will not question his way of life, putting up with what he does without too much fuss and willing to share what little she has with him without grumbling.
The User it seems what most women wind up with and accepts, lying up at home without a job or 40 years old living in momma or grandma’s basement. She seems to accept who and what he is giving into his crying, begging and childish tactics. She always admonishes him, “Joe, when will you grow up?” but never changing or growing up herself.
The User will drain a woman and play on her until she is dry. If a User cannot get what he wants from a woman by his urgings, then he does not want the woman.