Our life is full of trauma! Imagine an unborn child who takes the journey from the safety of mother’s womb to come into an unfamiliar world. Can you imagine how different those two worlds are?
We are born into the unknown when we are the most fragile physically and emotionally and survived the trauma. Our birth most likely will not be the last trauma that we will experience. We will face other unknowns at some time in our life. It is important to keep our perspective of a difficult situation, which may or may not be as difficult as when you were born into total unknown and complete vulnerability.
Our parents most likely welcomed us with open arms when we were born, and most likely will support us till they die. Conversely, the people who support us may not be our parents. We need to surround ourselves with people who are around us like our parents, to support and nurture us while we go through our “births”.
Birth Canal
The beats of sound
The darkness
In time the darkness and sounds become familiar
It becomes home!
After a while, home starts to become too small
It is time to move on
It is time to leave the comfort of “home”!
Ups and downs
Twists and turns
Forced into a bigger arena
unknown, unfamiliar, shocking
Strange and frightening sounds
Fear, skepticism, rejection, grief, self-pity
now rule the psyche
Nothing can be done but cry!
A cry of: what has been destroyed
A cry of: why me?
A cry of: why now?
Cries finally fade out
small eyes eventually open up
Will it be smiling faces welcoming
or
will it be angry and unsupportive faces?
Copyright .2014 by Shervin Hojat
Of all of his trauma, my brother's most devastating one was the sudden death of his healthy and vivacious wife, Sue, last week. You can read my poem for her and her obituary in the poetry section.
Ron