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J, this can't be easy for you, I know it's not. I can say that in all honesty, not to be sympathetic, but in total empathy. I keep a constant vigil myself, not knowing oft times if the proverial dagger overhead will fall. The Lord is your only refuge in times like these, in him and him alone can you trust all things, financially and emotionally. Lay it all out to him, and he will not forsake you in yours and Leah's hour of need. If you were to return to work, tis true, it would be too much!
Though the bills pile up, and I know this from personal experience too, let those who are trained in these matters help you, from all facets of life, grief counsel and also financial counsel, as the Lord directs them to you.
My heart hurts for you and Leah right now. May I just say this, Make every moment count, tomorrow has enough worries of its own, live for the today's.. Will remember your dearest one in my prayers, and you also..
May God give you peace and rest, and please keep in touch via msg board..
Love to you always
Ch'erie
Who is so sorry to of been absent of late :(

Allen,
My heart is pained by all of this. I have a friend whose Mother suffered terribly due to cancer. At the end, my friend, his sister, and his niece each took 8 hour shifts caring for the ailing Mother/Grandmother. Do you have family members nearby or those who may have vacation leave that they could take to help you?

Hang in there.
With thoughts and prayers,
Jill

This is heartbreaking, as you must have FAith and TRust in him!
Allen and Leah
I am praying for the right answers for you. I know this tough questions, my daughters has seizures daily, sees a nurse 1 time a day an hour and I work, and worry contantly! (So far, no real problems while being at work, always seems later) I trust In Jesus!
Please know he will provide!
BE with Leah, she is needing YOU!
Warmest Blessings and Hugs, Warrior Soulful Sheexooo

STay Positive!God Bless! Idea Allen, Google forums on these same questions you have in mind, answers may not be far behind! My heart goes out to you BOTH!

We are all praying that God will answer your fervent prayers, my friend.

(((Allen and Leah)))

If I had the money, you'd have it. Trust me when I say this: all I can offer you is my prayers (constantly) and a shoulder to lean on, an ear to bend: message board me your number, I'll call. So heartbreaking, but I'm glad Leah is home where she belongs, with you and China. Take the time off, Leah needs you more than ever. And you need her: your love is strong. Your Father's love is stronger, rely on Him to provide the answers. He will not forsake you.

(((HUGS))) love and prayer, Karla.

My heart weeps for you and Leah.

Rebecca

All I can say is God be with you both...peace and love and quality time together.. Many of us have been there..but it isn't the same unless it's you.... so I'm sorry, but I will pray for both of you. lindalaw

Allen, if I were you I would tke the leave, be with your wife, life is so very short and if something happened while you were gone you'd probably regret it the rest of your life, have faith in the Lord, he will see to your needs, both financially, spiritually and physically, I pray you are well also, rest wise, take care of your soul mate she needs you, Hugs Valerie

Have you thought of a trusting neighbor or relatives who could take turns while you are at work, if need be. I have done this and I would again, but you are so far away. I believe your faith in God will see you through. With all the love of Jesus Christ, I pray for grace and mercy for Leah and you.
Louisa

just breathe with each toher; and God will take care of the rest.
cherished and loved, both of you~
nessa

I'm so glad Leah is home. I went through this with my father, and mother. It took three of us to help them, and my brother lived with them so he did the overnight. I did most of the work during the day until we got a home health aide. Ask the Hospice people for the Social worker to come as soon as possible. She will take a history of your finances, and see what you are eligible for. It is tricky, you can't have too much money. You can cash out maybe a life insurance policy if you have one? They may tell you that. If not, then you may be better off. Then, Leah may be eligible for medicaid to pay for the home care but, you should go to work as soon as you are able to do so emotionally. If you do that then you can pay someone to take care of her needs all day, or four hours a day. A family member isn't trained for that kind of help. I did it because I did something similar for a living. I took care of mentally disabled consumers. You need, a strong back, and body, because you will pull something out trying to hold them from falling, or even move them over on the bed. The hospice are the ones that are supposed to help you, refer people. I hope this helped.

Check with all the Christian denominations in your area and see if they can offer a solution. You can't afford to lose your job as this will only add to your problems. Medicare or medicaid offers relief by sending part time help of at least 4 hours a day. Check them out if you haven't already. Our prayers are with you. Check with your Senators and Reps to see what they can do to get rid of any road blocks you are facing.

George

there are no easy answers--i am not sure what you do for work--any chance you can be set up to work from home?--my heart is heavy for you

Can't you get care and nurturing leave for spouse? I wish you were in Canada, because it would make everything so much simpler. There are laws that can protect you here and to give you leave and funds to care for your loved ones. Can you request a health care through the government to have a nurse come into your home to care for Leah?

I'm feeling very sad for you and Leah over this.

Sandie Angel :o(

How about hiring a nurse/caregiver for the hours you are at work, though granted that is quite expensive, at least you will be working towards paying it and such...hope you can work things out...Ed

I wish I had the answer, Allen, but I don't. Know that God will make a way; you just have to trust in Him, lean on Him. Speak to others about your dilemma; somewhere, somehow, there's got to be someone who can help. Don't give up hope; I'm still praying hard for you and Leah!!

Heartbreaking write; God be with you and Leah during this time of trial!

(((HUGS))) and much love to you both~

As always, your friend in Tx., Karen Lynn. :( >tears! <