My dad passed away in 2005. I miss him a lot but my mom was married to him for 55 years. She’s got dibs. She also has Alzheimer’s and for now at least, fond memories of him. Some people might find it creepy, but she has his ashes in an urn in her room in the assisted living facility so they can chat.
We took her on vacation with us last month to Missouri and one of our stops was the Crystal Bridges Art museum near Rogers, Arkansas where I took her picture. Walmart, of all the seemingly least likely sponsors, spent a pile of money to build the facility and acquire significant artwork.
Hi patrick . I wondered how your motwer was. It,s nice you took her on vacation with you. I have my husbands ashes here at home and they are a comfort. ...M
Your mother is so cute. You're a good son, and I'm sure she knows that.
Reviewed by Sandy Hoynacki (Reader)
Reviewed on June 24, 2012
Your poem is touching and particularly so for me. My dad died in 2008 and my mom, too, has Alzheimer's disease. She knows my dad passed away but on occasion will ask where he is. Beautiful post..
your heart is beautiful...very beautiful
Thanks for touching mine with this lovely offering
You Are A Loving Blessing To Her
& I for one do not find her conversations with
his ashes creepy at all...this is deep
Love & Blessings
Vickie
I think folks with that dreaded disease have some remaining little inkling of the past, even though they cannot express it or maybe not understand it...e
A genuinely kind, brilliant, and loving man. I miss him too. We liked to yell at Spartan basketball together. Don't forget your mom has every right to talk to the urn since it's nicknamed "urnie" and your dad is Ernie!
Patrick, Sometimes, life can be cruel and sad. But, if not for the lowlights, would we ever fully appreciate the highlights.
For those of us who have a loved one going through it, Alzheimer’s is awful to deal with, but I sometimes wonder if it isn't much kinder for the afflicted..... Sometimes, not always.
Getting old is awful. Living in a nursing home must be a scary way to "finish" out your life. Losing loved ones is dreadfully lonely at any age, but especially so when you’re in your twilight years. I sometimes wonder if Alzheimer’s doesn’t make our burdens - whatever they may be - less difficult to bear.
Love your poem, sorry I got so philosophical. Dick
Thanks for thinking of her. I know she would think of you if she could. My father died in 2006. They had 62 years together. After 3 mini strokes, mom has aphasia and can't form her words while speaking or writing very well. However, she can read and is still sharp as a tack in her mind. She is also hard of hearing, so is greatly frustrated in communication. You have just told me I need to call her.
I have my Mom and Dad'd ashes in my room too, for twenty five years and some, and the only thing that escapes from them is good memories, your Mom knows what she's doing where it counts, and so do you remembering them in such wonderful loving fashion. Bless ya!
Good, it's so good that you can remember your father with fond memories and wonderful words, and that your mother is coherent enough to also.... Good for both of you.
Mark
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Thanks for touching mine with this lovely offering
You Are A Loving Blessing To Her
& I for one do not find her conversations with
his ashes creepy at all...this is deep
Love & Blessings
Vickie
of Mom.
Lady Mary Ann
Anna
(((HUGS))) and much love, your friend in Texas, Karen Lynn.
In the man that we had
I had to do the same this Father's Day,
May the loving memories live on and on.
rose safe from thorns is your tribute!!!!
Lady Vivian
For those of us who have a loved one going through it, Alzheimer’s is awful to deal with, but I sometimes wonder if it isn't much kinder for the afflicted..... Sometimes, not always.
Getting old is awful. Living in a nursing home must be a scary way to "finish" out your life. Losing loved ones is dreadfully lonely at any age, but especially so when you’re in your twilight years. I sometimes wonder if Alzheimer’s doesn’t make our burdens - whatever they may be - less difficult to bear.
Love your poem, sorry I got so philosophical. Dick
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Mark
you both have dibs, I am glad she still remebers him so far. Your father is smiling down on your write, a fine tribute to them both.
Budd