My beautiful daughter...
What is it that I have done or am doing
that is making you so angry and rude with me?
With him, his caring and concern is met
with love and consideration...
My caring and concern seems lately
to be met with your anger and impatience.
Have you any idea how this hurts me?
Have you any idea how this hurts you?

In the last two weeks or so, I have
been taking the brunt of your nasty moods -
I think you need to ask yourself if you
are truly being honest with yourself
and your feelings.
It is very uncharacteristic for a pregnant
woman to carry so much anger and intolerance.
When she is truly happy with her decision,
this happiness and sense of delighted peace
generally permeates all of her relationships,
and she relaxes into the bright and warm
feelings of this peace and the glow
of her inner happiness.

He was more compassionate with
my concern than you;
You, again, met it with anger...
So, please - be as considerate and caring
of what you say and do to me as you are
with your growing child’s father -
I will be that "other" special person in your
baby’s life and will always be there to support
you both when life gets rough.
I am this child’s grandmother.

I understand this fear - I have felt it.
After everything I have watched you struggle
with in your life - do you not think
I feel fear for you?
I understand more completely than you
the dangers and the cruelties of this world,
for I have lived them...I have fought them -
and like you, I have risen above them.
So, the next time you feel anger at me for caring...
The next time you snap at me -
Please think before you act.
Remember...I feel that same fear for you
that you feel for yourself and your unborn child.
I have never intruded on your life and, my dear
daughter, I do not intend to begin now.

© 2002, Deborah L. Kelly