-- The Value of Hindsight --
John Herlihy
There was a time when he listened,
To all the things that she did say.
There was a time when he heard,
All the things that she did not say.
A time he felt only he was listening,
Whether things were ever said nor not.
A time he felt when only he heard,
All the things that were said or not said.
There was a time when he remembered,
All the things that he freely told her.
There was a time when he wanted to forget,
All the things that he freely told her.
There was a time when he forgot,
Many of the things that he told her.
There was a time he tried to remember,
What he told her to tell her what to forget.
There was a certain kind of forgetting,
That he wanted to have stayed forgotten.
But there was a certain kind of forgetting,
Familiar forgetting he wanted to remember.
Then there were all the awful moments,
That he wished had never happened.
Along with all the beautiful moments,
That he knew truly did happen.
Remembering forgotten moments,
Will turn them into a treasure.
Forgetting certain remembered moments,
Can turn into feelings of displeasure.
The value of hindsight lies in giving,
The means to assess what we know.
How we have made best use in living,
Learn from mistakes in order to grow.
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Copyright ©John Herlihy
Monday 12 October 2020
and the remembrance of what happened and what did not…
What the ‘reality’ of a situation was…and what imagined…
Often the interpretation of such is the key…are ‘imaginings’ any the less
relevant than ‘the truth’…?
In due course we are left with myriad memories, all touched with the wisdom of
age and time..to comfort or haunt…
Perhaps the choice is ours…in where we rest our head…
While our memory of our mistakes fade, our wisdom grows from those mistakes.
When I asked my cousin about my great aunt's rape that occurred when she was in her late 80s, my cousin told me, "She never mentioned it again. Went on being her happy self, doing crocheting until she died at about 93." But I know that she left that apartment that she liked so much and moved into another one, apparently safer.
Ron